Is it normal for feelings to come back after 4 years?

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I met this girl when I was 4 and starting little kids school. We instantly clicked from that day we were with each other 24/7 we were like brother and sister together I had such a laugh with her.

When we got older my feelings for her changed. I didn't see her as my sister anymore but as much more. I wanted to tell her how I felt but I didn't want to ruin our years of friendship and memories so I kept quiet. One day when she was at my house she changed she was in a foul mood she would hardly say a word, I asked her what was wrong and she blew up and stormed off. I was a little hurt but gave her some space.

A few weeks passed and nothing changed. I phoned I went to see her but she didn't want to see me. Then one day she came round. I was so happy to see her, she sat me down and told me she was moving away. I was gutted, she said she had nothing more to say.

She left, I kept trying to phone her and email her. But she never replied. So I just got on with my life. I lost my mum and sank into depression.

4 years passed. I was checking my emails one day and I saw her name. I opened the email and it said how much she missed me and how sorry she was. And how she still loved me so much. All my feelings came back. I didn't reply for a few days. When I did we spoke like she'd never left. She told me she was sorry. And she went through a bad time.

She then told me she had a boyfriend. My heart sank. I tried to act normal but I couldn't. I still liked this girl. And on the email she said she loved me.

So I told her. And she said she used to like me. I wish I had told her when I knew.

I told her I couldn't speak to her anymore that I'd only push her away and hurt her. Because I would from my feelings and my depression. Now I'm starting to regret it. And I don't want to start emailing again because it will look like I'm messing her about. So I'm not sure what to do?

It's a long sop story. But I need advice.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I believe that if you love someone, and they aren't causing you harm, then you should do everything you can to keep them in your life. One of the top regrets people have when they are old (and dying) is the love they missed out on because they didn't have the courage to pursue it when they had a chance.

    I hope it all works out for you. (:

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      She has a boyfriend though, And my only way of contact is through email. But I know I never stopped liking her.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Those are tough odds. However, would you rather give up altogether or give it an honest try? Both choices will cause you discomfort, but only one gives you a chance at happiness.

        Quite a long time ago, I went through something similar to your situation. I was still deeply in love with an ex-boyfriend. And even though I made an attempt to 'move on' and became involved with someone else, I would have dropped everything to be with my ex. All he needed to do was tell me he wanted me and I would have been his. I knew I couldn't live with myself if I had walked away never saying how I truly felt. So, I told him I still loved him. Unfortunately, he said that in spite of still having feelings for me, he couldn't be with me. It hurt. It hurt really bad, actually. Yet even though it hurt, I'm still glad I said it because the pain of rejection was easier to deal with than the sick feeling of regret.

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