Is it normal for family members to be irritable and judgemental

I feel like I can't hold a conversation with my closes kin, mother, aunt, and sometimes grandmother, without them responding negatively. I ask simple questions, and they make me feel dumb or intimidated. I know I can easily tell them off, and defend myself, seeing as though I'm in my early 20's. But with my mom and grandmother it's a respect thing. And with my aunt, I just don't want a big blow out even though I REALLY can't stand her most of the time.

Also I'm male, and there aren't any older males present in my life. So I've been raised by females.

Anyways, I feel like I'm never myself around them. I'm a creative, random, kind, smart person. But around them I'm angry, insecure, and irrational. My aunt calls me bipolar, my grandmother says I act as if I have no sense, and my mom treats me like a child. They bring out the worst in me.

They (mom and aunt) judge how I dress, and think it's gay. I don't even dress gay, at all. I dress like guys in GQ magazines, or like a hipster. Anytime I leave the house they comment on what I'm wearing, and its always negative. But people outside in the world always compliment me. People outside of my family make me feel better than family sometimes. I like Anime, Disney, various type of music ( rap, rock, pop, Jpop, game music, Disney songs, etc), I draw, want to be a writer, and travel the world. But they don't get me. My aunt and grandmother's opinion don't matter as much as my mom's, but I have no family support. And instead of being successful like I know I can, out of anger and resentment, I do things that harm my life. Or to get back at them by acting careless.

Whenever I try to tell my mom my problems, she yells and always mention her financial problems. Or whenever I talk to her about stuff, she is kinda disinterested. We never talk unless it's about bills, appointments, jobs, and stuff like that. So it seems like I only go to her when I need something but really I just don't want to be around someone that can't talk without being defensive.

Sometimes I hate my family but feel guilty about it. Well, guilty about feeling that way about my mom. She always took care of me financially, but I never had any mental support. I tried for years to make myself feel better, but I keep relapsing. And its exhausting when your own family is beating you down.