Is it normal for exes to be "friends with benefits"?

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So me and my boyfriend were dating for almost five months and he randomly broke up with me. I was devastated and he never told me why. He started texting me a few weeks after we broke up saying he missed me, he only left because he "didn't think he deserved me", and wanted me back, we got back together and he dumped me again that same day and said he wanted to be "just friends". After a few weeks of us texting he asked me today if we could be "friends with benefits" but he still acts like he loves me and gets jealous when i talk about other guys. We started sexting like we used to when we were dating today and he said he wants to meet up somewhere Monday so we can "mess around" is it normal???

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Had you ONLY wanted sex from him I'd say: Go for it!

    But you clearly still care for the guy and he has over and over again proven that he doesn't want more than just easy sex.

    Don't fall for it and don't hurt yourself further :/ As a girl you can EASILY get a friend with benefits somewhere else, someone who isn't your ex ...

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    • morgano
      10 years ago

      i do still have feelings for him (somehow lol) and i'm not going to do it, I don't want to degrade myself for a guy who treats me like crap. thank you for the feedback (:

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      • (s)aint
        10 years ago

        Good! Take care and better luck with the next guy who wins your heart.

        Feelings can be tricky to get rid of :/

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        • morgano
          10 years ago

          thank you! and don't i know it :(

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      • Sog
        10 years ago

        He has absolutely no concern for you at all and is just looking for a play-thing to keep him occupied. You will quickly be replaced when he finds a shiny new "toy" that grabs his attention.

        That's not a relationship that you want to be a part of. He likely has a whole phone full of women he messes around with just to fulfill his superficial needs and to brag to his friends about.

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    • fucifino
      10 years ago

      (s)aint is right....you clearly still have feelings for him and this is him using you. If you just wanted the sex too and didn't have feelings for him it would be normal.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      10 years ago

      yeah this.

      if you want to just have sex with a friend that's fine. i've done it myself.

      however when one person wants more than the other ... it doesn't usually end well.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    What a slob.

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  • lovelifemiss12
    10 years ago

    girl!!! dont be so silly.. he only wants one thing his bits! . he acts it he dont mean it!:o . he wants everything but a relationship he wants no strings attached to you so he.can do what he wants with other people! dont be so.silly.hun your.a second choice text that dog and say ur.goodbyes

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  • DannyKanes
    10 years ago

    I wouldn't do it.

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  • SuperBenzid
    10 years ago

    Do it if you want sex but if you're looking for more don't.

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  • Caity21Lifee
    10 years ago

    going. to. sleep.

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    • morgano
      10 years ago

      good idea XD

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      • Caity21Lifee
        10 years ago

        I was so tired i felt like i could pass out as i was typing that x-x

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Fuck the sonofabitch. He's a selfish prick.

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  • CreativeThinker
    10 years ago

    Simple... he needs a hole for his pole......You decide if u want to be that hole...
    My suggestion just buy her an artificial vagina which he can use when his hormones get out of balance and you find some guy to whom you actually enjoy laying with or someone who actually show some respect toward you

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    • morgano
      10 years ago

      this made me laugh so hard haha thank you for the feedback, me and him are definitely done (:

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      • CreativeThinker
        10 years ago

        you are welcome......... The best time to judge a guy is right after he is done having sex with a girl those few seconds are something difficult for a guy to hide his face expressions or real intentions toward a girl and you said his all cares are only before having a date so that concludes everything... Good decision by the way...

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  • GreyWulfen
    10 years ago

    I think this would just hurt you. Forget him and move on. You owe him nothing.

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  • White___October
    10 years ago

    I think he doesn't know what he wants either, but that's not so bad is it? Let him be desperate, as long as you know what you're doing it's ok.

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