Is it normal for everything to be happening so fast?

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I met a guy online ♫about a week ago♫ and we clicked instantly. We have so many things in common it's crazy. It seems too good to be true. I have been single for a year and my last relationship... I was kind of lured into and wasted a good chunk of my life on a pos. I knew I deserved better than that, but do I deserve perfect?

We have met in person and everything was even better than I expexted. It was just as easy to talk, he looked even better in person and we had great chemistry. We talk more and more on a deeper level ever day. We've both admitted to wanting to go ahead and make us an item but we don't want to be too impulsive. He definitely seems like he is committed already.

I guess I'm just scared that something is going to go wrong. He has everything I need in my life and he's offering all of it to me. I jumped into my last relationship, albeit I was much younger. I don't want to be tricked into love again and that frozen song for Hans and Anna keeps popping into my head... the part about finishing each other's sandwiches...

I'm also worried about how I might feel later down the road because of my impulsiveness.

Is this normal or do I need to slow down?

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

All but one of my good relationships has happened pretty swiftly. There was no good reason to doubt the connection. We'd meet, have fun together and become a couple within a few days. We enjoyed each other's company and every minute together brought us closer together.
I wouldn't worry too much about the 'what if's', but just go with the flow and enjoy the moment. I know it's a pretty trite thing to say, but life is short and you need to grab the brass ring and take advantage of every opportunity to be happy that you get.
Good luck.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Thanks. I was looking forward to your advice :)
  
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Arm0se

9 years ago

Do it.

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TrustMeImLying

9 years ago

I have a strange hunch that I read a post made by you some months ago. Hmm. Maybe my spidey sense needs new batteries.

It's normal to feel scared. And you probably will every step of the way. Being impulsive and "not being emotionally guarded" are two different things though. I encourage the latter. As for impulsivity, that is a judgment call. Maybe don't go marrying the person after a couple of months, or move in together in a month. =P That's things happening too fast. Other than that you're fine. I wouldn't label you two wanting to be an item as impulsive. That's the most logical route given your chemistry. If shit happens, it happens. That's life. But don't keep constantly worrying what may go wrong cause then you're tainting what is potentially the most exciting phase of the relationship. glhf

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Thank you!
  
  Perhaps you did. What was the post about? And just to get this straight, you encourage me to "not be emotionally guarded"? Haha, I kid. I know what you mean.
  
  He actually has hinted at moving in together already 0_o And joked about marriage.lol And tbh I would consider moving in together in the near future if things continue to go well. That is something I'd like to happen which is why I think I'd do something impulsive like that. It's just so strange to meet a guy who is so ready to be committed. I guess I'm just used to assholes?
  
  What is glhf? Give love have fries?
  
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  - TrustMeImLying
    
    9 years ago
    
    It was about something similar. Relatio ship stuff. *stares at you suspiciously then shakes head to snap out of it*. I'm most likely mistaken. It happens often and it's probably just [insert fancy word I recently learned that means wrongly recognizing patterns... that I cant remember]
    
    glhf = Good Luck Have Fun
    
    Jokes are understandable my own jokes have no boundaries but I'd raise an eyebrow at someone hinting moving in that soon. And I'm a guy *shrugs* Maybe I'm skeptical or a tad old-fashioned. Or maybe y'all are teens or early twenties.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      If it was about my asshole ex it may have been me.. I might have posted about a crush a while back. Don't remember... Anyhow you must tell me this word when you remember. It sounds like a lovely word.
      
      I'm mid twenties and he's early thirties... I have my own reasons for wanting to move in with someone but I'm not sure what his might be. Homecooking? Basement slave? Idk..I did raise an eyebrow, but maybe he just knows what he wants since he's older?
      
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      - TrustMeImLying
        
        9 years ago
        
        Apophenia. Not so lovely sounding. How about a makeup?: Hanyauku. Don't remember what language but it's for when a person walks on their toes cause the sand is too hot :o
        
        Hmm. Sounds like you know what you're doing then, which is awesome. Sorry about the skepticism =P I have simply observed a handful of ships derail cause of going at high speeds... but the common factor there was inexperience or young age. Ignore my comments. Go have fun and enjoy yourseld. Shoo! *chases you away with a spork*
        
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derpyderp

9 years ago

When you meet the right person things just happen at their own pace.
As long as you're both happy & it feels natural then go with it.
Try not to make any huge decisions (marriage, moving in together) for a little while but apart from that go for it!
What have you got to lose?

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