Is it normal for everyone to like my younger sister better than me?

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First off, this is a long IIN, so don't answer if you aren't willing to read it all.

My sister is 9 years old (younger than me). She is a bratty little bitch. She always whines for whatever she wants and always starts problems. A spoiled, good-for-nothing squirt. Even worse, I have to share a room with her, and even then, SHE chooses the channel, decides whether the lights are on/off, and is constantly in my personal space. She stolen many things from me before.

My parents prefer her and my younger brother (4 years) over me. It's easy to tell. She asks for a laptop, hell, give her one! (she has a laptop, phone and android. Psh.) I ask for a candy bar at the grocery store, no way in hell. They even tell me that I should be more like her-With perfect fucking grades. They're good enough, yeesh. They also always take her side on every single goddamn thing. I hate my family, and I'm sure the feelings are mutual.

Family friends like her better. I remember going for a sleepover at a family's house. They're kids were WAY older. I come back with a chocolate bar and a bracelet. She actually went for a sleepover and came back with her backpack FULL of gifts. What the fuck? Did they think I wouldn't be offended? I cried too. My mom said that I ws a terrible person for being jealous (even though I was simply offended, not jealous. It's with other family friends too. She gets some kind of expensive gift every time and I get something that looks like it was pieced together from scrap.

Personal friends too. I have ever only had a total of 3 close friends throughout my long 13 year-old life. I'm not very social. I brought all of them to my house. My sister butts in, and next thing you know, they leave me alone with Mr.Corner while my sister chats away with my 'friend'. I'm afraid to bring any of my new friends for a visit (I have 2 friends at the moment.)

Even PETS. I have tamed, raised, and taken care of my parakeets for 3 months, and my sister is keeping me away from my own birds! She is calling them hers and teaching them tricks and everything. Why? If they're my pets, you stay away!

I think it's leading to depression. I don't cut or have suicidal thoughts, no, but I've just become really depressed since then. I talk a lot less often and I don't really trust anyone anymore (save for my 2 friends). I'm a minor, so I can't move out. I've talked to my parents/old friends/family friends about this, but they say I'm just jealous and paranoid. Jealous of what? The spoiled brat? Not in the least.

IIN? Also, what can I do to solve this conflict?

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    Hm, it might be normal since favoritism definitely happens and I've seen it even in my own house. It isn't right and usually when favoritism is there, its for all the wrong reasons. Its like back in high school where there may be a really popular person but in truth, they have 100 casual acquaintances instead of any real friends. The "smart guy/girl" in class who is out to prove something to the world with good grades and the teacher goes "You should be more like him/her", only to find out that when they graduate, no one will care about their grades in real life and they will have no hobbies or abilities other than books that makes them more special than anyone else.
    Honestly, I believe the only thing you can do about this is accept the situation, fortify your self-value and take a little more control. Sure your sister is spoiled but you already said you're not jealous, if anything, you can feel sad that if she continues to be like that, real life will slap her in the face and she won't be prepared for not getting her way. At the same time, you can feel really good about yourself for not having to resort to such petty means of attention. Spoiled people rarely end up good, any attention she is getting is not meaningful nor will it last any real amount of time. Those friends of yours that talk to her? Its not like they suddenly dropped you and became her friend, its just a few moments of conversation. Outside of that house, I'd imagine your friends talk to you about you, not her. Time will show what really matters, just watch.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      You have no idea how much your post cheered me up and boosted my confidence.

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      • Riddler
        10 years ago

        My parents are like this. I have a younger sibling and they give him anything, allow him to do anything he wanted and when he messes up is always esxused.

        If they mess up I get in trouble, if I messed up I get in trouble. My mother spent most of my time telling me I was a selfish and hated me since I reminded me of her aunt apparently.

        While my father seemed to reject me when my mom got angry at him for trying to be nice to me. My dad was always super possessive and my parents are both younger siblings.

        So I think the reason they favour my sibling is they reject me as their older siblings which they hate. Whenever I tried to sign up for sports they said "We don't have money or sports are bad and unhealthy" but when my sibling signed up for boxing they told him "Good job we are so proud of you".

        Even though when I signed up for fighting they kept trying to find reasons to not take me or pull me out. They always gave my sibling more rights even though every task they gave him he completely fucked up. They gave him 20 dollars and they say save 10 and he comes back with 5. They give me 20 and I come back with 10 or more.

        When I was 16 we moved to a house with very small rooms and so we moved all the electronics to the back room. We both agreed to this. So we shared the back room. Our parents also told us both that neither of us would get the back room to ourselves.

        Than eventually they gave it to my sibling. Who let the animals poop in the room and didn't care to clean it up. So I had to watch tv and stuff in the living room and they gave my sibling all the electronics. They than eventually asked and said "Hey do you want to switch his tv for your piano" and I polity said "No its alright I want to keep the instrument" and so they both told me I was a selfish ungrateful child and I deserve to live on the street.

        So they ended up giving my sibling my piano when they already have 5 guitars and I only had one instrument, they let them have all the electronics in the backroom and when I tried to watch tv in the front room they said it was ok to kick me out so he could play games.

        When I said it wasn't fair they told me I was selfish and spoiled and threatened to kick me out of the house. Than told me that people in japan don't get to have big rooms or tv so I should appreciate it. Though I wouldn't have really minded if they applied these rules to him but they only applied them to me. Even when I behaved.

        I was always behaved, I always cleaned the house and did my chores, I always cleaned my house, and did exactly what I was told and they always treated them better. Despite the fact they were lazy, they didn't want to do anything but play games and now they are an adult and they don't care to go to school or try to get a job.

        Since of course the only thing in the world that matters is video games. When I have worked hard and did what I was suppose to do every day of my life and hes had so much more opportunity than I had and he wont even think about job or a career.

        While I try hard to find work in this shitty economy but he doesn't even try and he never did, never tried, never cared and I did everything right and still I get fucked over when my dad disowned me and kicked me out, and go through a bunch of shitty jobs that I cant keep because of hours, or that I don't get any real pay at.

        Than them with perfect grade just says "Who cares I got a PlayStation and all I want to do is play video-games. Jobs don't matter, and neither does school, and even got offered a place in the military.

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    Duh, murder solves everything

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  • biaj
    10 years ago

    Honestly as a younger sibling i saw this happen growing up, after a while i thought it was incredibly unfair that i could hit my brother run behind my mom and she would take my side. after a while i didnt even have to defend myself it was horrible. my brother ended up hating more for a few years and things slopped down from there. tell ur sister how u feel and hope that your relationship will get better instead of worse cuz some stuff went down with me n my bro and i can never really trust him ever. Just dont harbor any hate or resentment when you grow up.

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  • Chefeetaboopers
    10 years ago

    Well, I'm the oldest of three kids. I got accepted to a college in my junior year of high school, never failed a class, helped care for my siblings and help out my parents, learned to drive so I could do errands for my mom. Went to college and then got a job to pay for rent.

    My youngest sister keeps failing classes, had to do summer school, has never gone to college or gotten a job, can't drive, never helps out my mom, lives at home with her boyfriend and won't pay bills or rent.

    For some reason, they love the hell out of her and let her get away with it. When I had surgery on my arm to correct a disability and couldn't work for 3 months, my mother made my fiancee pay rent cause she needed the rent.. yet my sister can live for free and she's not dealing with any health issues and her boyfriend doesn't pay either...

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  • ViolenceAgainstTheState
    10 years ago

    Not me. She annoys the hellacious out of me.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    It's your parents responsibility to not side with just one person in an argument.

    You also deserve to have your own fucking room AND to have your pets, toys and friends alone. Maybe try and get the rules of " My friends, don't talk to them" with your sister. MOst older siblings don't want their younger ones around whilst they have friends over.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      My parents will always side with either my brother or sister if I am included in any way, and I'm the one who always gets the punishment. Washing the dishes (my sister's chore) is terrible. Ugh, those annoying wrinkly fingers you get at the end...

      I cannot get my pets back because they hate me now anyway. How? My sister taught them to squak and peck at me. She gave them TREATS for that!

      My own toys? No way in hell. Sharing is mandatory for me. (But the rule doesn't apply to her, apparently.)

      The "My friends, don't talk to them" rule will never work because she will fake cry and my mother will tell me that I absolutely MUST include her, and my friend tells me I'm being harsh on her.

      Lastly, we only have one spare room to use as a bedroom, but it is used as a storage room instead (no garage) and my father refuses to clean out his junk.

      Lady Luck doesn't like me much.

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      • (s)aint
        10 years ago

        Had you been older I'd have told you to try and get out of there as soon as possible but there's years left before that is even on the map for you.

        I don't know what else I can tell you to do besides trying to get your parents to understand how you feel, maybe teach the little bratty sister of yours that it's going to HURT her from now on when she isn't nice to you.

        Other than this you could try and talk to your sister and tell her how much you hate that the two of you don't get along and that you'd wish for a change in that. I'm not telling you to suck it up to her, but maybe try to be the grown up in the whole situation to try and make it work out before you are old enough to stay with friends for longer periods of time or go away to College.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Too long, too whiny.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Why read it if I said it was long from the beginning?

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      • Tommythecat.
        10 years ago

        But it's also very whiny you see.

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      • thegypsysailor
        10 years ago

        It isn't that I wouldn't like to help, so perhaps you can trim your posts down to a small paragraph or two. Many others don't bother with the long posts too, so you are the loser.
        I did not read it, but skimmed. Sorry, trying to help, but hey you are welcome to get mad.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I'm not going to get mad, but I am curious as to why somebody would complain about it being too long when I already said it was long.

          And yes, I have a tendency to write/type way too much. I've been told that before when I wrote a 4 page letter to a cousin in Russia, so I'm not going to say that I'm not a loser, either.

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        • DubstepismyMJ
          10 years ago

          He/she is only 13 cut he/her some slack :p

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          • thegypsysailor
            10 years ago

            If he/she is posting on here then he/she should be able to take whatever the IIN members choose to dish out. What, special rules for those YOU like?

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            • DubstepismyMJ
              10 years ago

              As someone who has siblings, i can sympathize with this person, and do think its quite a problem in alot of family.
              I can completely understand why you dont give a shit. seeing as you dont have any siblings. So you will never understand. Mind your ignorance.

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