Is it normal for couples to take a break ?

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Me and my wife have been married 10 years. We just celebrated our anniversary. She hasn't been doing so well this past week. I tried everything to help her. I make her dinner every night. We take the kids to the movies. We have our pool ready we've been swimming everyday. We go for rides on our four-wheelers. She goes out with her friends every week night. She's just been feeling sad this last week. She said she wants to take a break from me. I didn't do anything to her. She said she's not cheating. I know she'd never cheat. Especailly since we've been married this long. She said one of her friends upset her last week. She said she needs time to think about it and she wants to be alone. She said she wants to move back in with her cousin and her uncle. We have a son who is 6 he doesn't like her seeing this way he doesn't want her to leave. He doesn't understand what's going on. I know how badly she's hurting I know she needs time alone. Is it normal she wants a break for a while ?

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Based on 14 votes (6 yes)
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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    This story doesn't make sense to me: what on earth did the friend do to upset her so much she needs to leave her marriage and her child? Wanting a break sometimes is normal, but what you're describing is moving out.

    By the way, you're in dreamland if you really believe she couldn't be cheating because of the length of your marriage: that doesn't make sense either. I'm not saying she is cheating, just saying.

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    • Max2016
      7 years ago

      The exact same thoughts went through my mind when reading this.

      Why would his wife want to move out because of a friend? Who is this friend and where does he/she live? If it's right next door, it could make some sense. But still weird.

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  • Terry...
    7 years ago

    She is thinking about your marriage and if it's what she wants anymore. She is telling you it's something else to avoid a confrontation.

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  • AB1234
    7 years ago

    Ross and Rachel, again? Seriously, though, this is one of the reasons I'll never get into a serious "relationship," and under no circumstances will I ever marry. Not in Western culture, at least. I have to agree with the general sense. Many things don't make sense. I cannot fathom something a friend would say to me that would make me want to abandon, even temporarily, my family or my principles (like being vegan). Generally, when something like that happens, at least I feel, it's really that the person was already thinking about it and is using what was said/done as an excuse for acting on their wishes, especially when those wishes conflict with what the person believes to be "right."

    Good luck to you. If things don't work out between you two, please-please-please reconsider marriage. It's a failing mythos in modern Western culture.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    I can understand needing some alone time from being a wife and mother, but moving out is a bit far. This really sounds like an out of court separation agreement innocently disguised as a "break".

    You really need to talk to her.

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  • Max2016
    7 years ago

    Can you please elaborate more? Much of what you said does not make sense. Why does she want to move out because of a friend?

    And yes, cheating is not off the table. She may or may not be cheating. She may or may not have fallen in love with someone else.

    Does she want to take the child with her?

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Let see..... She go out with her friends every week night? She probably doesn't have to much time with her friends.....

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