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He's a really sweet guy but they've been hinting around since we got together about me and his guy friend gettin it on. So far all I've done is dress down around the guy and flash them a few times or w/e but they definitely want more
It's not a matter of normal or not. He wants it. If you don't want to let him live out his fantasy, all power to you, but you and he may not be compatible sexually. Maybe it's something that will pass for him, maybe not.
When it comes to sexual experimentation; Only do things YOU want, it is normal to be nervous and insecure but in the end you will know if you want to do it or not.
This comes from someone who have done a lot of considered weird and wrong things.
You are going to have to live with whatever you decide, for the rest of your life. If this is not something you'd be willing to tell the man you will eventually marry, then think twice about compromising your principles.
I think it's normal , it's not my normal but for a lot of people this is . If you don't want to do it , tell him and if he insists .. leave .
HMMM... be VERY careful about what you do because they pressure you. I would be concerned about how persistent they are about getting you to do something THEY want, instead of letting you do what YOU want... almost like they have a "goal" to do with you... and, I've seen girls do this, and afterwards the relationship goes away - b/c the BF (and his friend) got what he wanted. Guys can be agressive to the point of rape - and even though I like rough sex - I don't do anything with a guy(s) that I don't want to - my advice to you.
However, if YOU want to experience a 3some (with these particular guys, or with anyone else), then I suggest you go for it - when YOU'RE ready. Don't do ANYTHING you don't want to do, and don't feel like you have to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable to make your BF happy. If he respects you, then he will understand your objection. Remember, this advice is coming from me, an experienced kinky girl who has had a threesome (well, 2 actually). Have fun and be safe.
Thank you. When I say persistent, I don't mean that they are violent or mean. Mostly it consists of goofy pickup lines and little tugs on my shorts until I cave and just go with it. They do have a goal but he's offered me tons of compromises. Like "okay well what are you into?" I'm too shy to give a straight answer but it's not like they are horrible to me or anything. They know I'm self conscious about my belly/boobs so they don't even mess with me about going topless.
His friend happens to be our roommate and I've always been one to dress casual around the house. So it wasn't a huge stretch when my bf asked me to dress that way outside of the bedroom. Actually since asking for help here, I've gotten over some of my shyness. Went bottomless (for real) yesterday and just hung out with his friend for a few hours until bf got off work.
I don't really want to do it with the guy but I think I'm going to just take one for the team and hope he still loves me afterwards. I wish you and I could discuss things privately as I don't want to get banned for graphic content or w/e (w/e=whatever)
The "but" indicates to me that you don't want to do this, so what's with the flashing them and what does w/e mean?
Well of course I don't want to do it. In every other way though he is perfect and deserves to be happy. They are very... persistent and he usually starts an argument if I don't give in to that. I hated it at first but they usually let me keep a shirt on at least
That behavior is far from perfect, it's manipulative and don't you also deserve to be happy and not be pushed into doing things you don't want to do?
I don't understand what difference it makes it they "let" you keep a shirt on and I'm still in the dark about "flashing" and w/e