Is it normal for bf to look at other girls on fb

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Me and my boyfriend have been in a serious relationship for the past year and a half. Since the moment we met it was like love at first sight, and right away he told me I was going to be his gf no matter what it takes. we spend every second together. it would always be telling me im his future wife, and how im the most beautiful person he's ever seen or dated. we had this special relationship and i felt so lucky. however about a month ago i began feeling something was off.. maybe it was my intuition. and so i went through the history on the computer.. and to my disgust i saw facebook page links.. literally hundreds of different girls he was looking at their profiles. I began very depressed and insecure and sort of told him i needed a few days break (he was being distant from me and it just didn't feel like this amazing bf gf relationship it once did) so anyways basically the next day we got back together and he told me he doesn't know why he looks at the pics, he just does. and that he loves me more than anything and thinks i am absolutley gorgeous and doesn't know why he looks. since then everything has been great. we have been spending all are time together, i even felt like an engagement coming on.. but tonight i just glanced at the history and once again he is looking at these pictures.. I am so hurt. i have asked many people and all the guys says that "guys will look at other girls like on the street and stuff, but not obsessively on facebook" .. If he was looking at celebrities it would be alright, but these are REAL girls.. living in our city... im sort of creeped out.

is this normal for a boyfriend to be acting like this? or is this a sign that he's a cheater. I am a very sensitive person, and a very loyal/romantic person, and i feel so hurt. am i being over dramatic, or do I have the right to want someone to love me and be completely loyal to me?

any advice would help.
thanks

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  • Its_Called_Love
    12 years ago

    My ex did the same and I just thought of it as "boys will be boys", then he ended up cheating on me with a couple of those facebook girls. Just saying...

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  • laxman209
    12 years ago

    Just dump him. You cannot keep a strong relationship with such insecurity surrounding it. Honestly there is a lot fish in the sea and you most likely can get someone better who wont check up chicks on facebook.

    Chances are he is checking out these chicks using one hand with the other firming his gear stick.

    So honestly get rid of him.

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  • pem24
    12 years ago

    I daresay this could be an indicator of a future cheater.

    From the way you told the story, I don't believe he was just looking at hundreds of "them" and say "I don't know why?". That answer is only acceptable if his job was a casting producer!

    Believe in your intuition, girl! You won't feel that if there's nothing wrong. That's our female asset.

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  • pohpoh
    12 years ago

    not normal.. this is a single guy thing to do!!! y does he need to look at other girls wen he had u? arnt u enough? unless they r friends hes looking at, not normal!

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    this same thing happened to me exactly except I was with him 2 n half years ! when I read it I was like:0:0:0
    but anyway yeah what I did was called him a pervert and I cried and cried and he promised he would stop but he never did he wouldn't stop and we broke up finnaly and now I'm with someone who isn't a pervert so u should dump ur bf :)

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  • ants91shearer
    10 years ago

    he maybe looking 4 his future girlfriend number 2 lol

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  • emotionalwreck4ever
    12 years ago

    Maybe hes interested on trying new girls out if hes looking at them, only he knows and he prolly wont tell yuu because he doesnt wanna hurt yuu, i would be really pist off as well, yuu need to talk to him not keep it from him .

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  • suze1000
    12 years ago

    I'm a romantic too. Would NOT tolerate this. Also his excuse of 'I don't know why' is what someone says when they know very well why, but are also aware the answer will get them in shit.
    BE WARY.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    He doesn't sound like a very good guy :/ Alot of people make the mistake of staying with these type people, but at this point the trust is going to diminish, then the relationship fails. You might have really loved the old him, but it sounds like he's changed

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  • violetgrape
    12 years ago

    my boyfriend does this too.Whats up with men.Can't imagine myself thinking"i have nothing to do,lemmi check out mens' pics on FB"#!?

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    Its normal for him not to be honest with you re: his feelings when he looks at these girls. Maybe he doesn't want to admit that he has lost a bit of interest in the relationship - or maybe he is getting cold feet because he knows that he needs to make the next step and he is just making "sure that there is nothing better for him out there" - I've heard that from guy friends before. Maybe he is just curious, maybe..... who knows.... only he knows -

    I am more questioning the fact that he has no answer for you when you ask him. Which would tell me .... well, I am not you, so I'll leave that harsh bit out. You want to be loved unconditionally and by someone who deserves your love - does he?

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Trust is one of the first things you need to work on in your relationship, so quite spying on him and just love him!
    I have a great car, but I still look at cars at cars shows to see how mine compares! But I would never part with mine! Good luck with your choices.

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    • Lynxikat
      12 years ago

      ...You can't honestly compare a person to a car.

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      • ygrowup
        12 years ago

        I know that is a very simple example, but much the same. I like to compare my girl with others and of course great beauty is very hard not to look at. But with me as with most, we draw the line somewhere.

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        • Lynxikat
          12 years ago

          Then where do you draw the line? Your original post stated that OP should just "quit spying on him and just love him" when he obviously doesn't deserve it if he lied to her and betrayed her trust. Also, I'm pretty sure when a guy constantly looks at women's pictures, he's doing more than just looking... which should be creepy enough, but it makes the guy a complete douchebag if he already has a girlfriend.

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  • claire211
    6 years ago

    Ask him why he's doing this. Don't wait until he'll cheat you with one of these girls. I broke up with my boyfriend when he started liking other girls on Instagram. I monitored him a while with Snoopreport (https://snoopreport.com) and then I asked him why he was doing this. He answered he just liked to watch at them. But I don't understand such behavior. We broke up

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  • jglidewell88
    6 years ago

    My boyfriend and i been dating for two years and 3 months and almost 4. he and i loved each other unconditionally and couple months ago. He did the same exact thing he looked at other pictures of girls on Facebook and i was depressed. I asked him too and he said no he doesn't, he lied to me. But thing was that i didn't tell him that i looked at his history. so yesterday it came to my head and i should've told him then but now i'm gonna mention to him about it today. Because for some reason i get over it and i should just tell that i knew what you did.

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  • S_dot_Motion
    10 years ago

    All of you need to just take it down just a notch. He may just actually really love you and only you. Who are you (and anyone who posted) to decide if he's being truthful to you about you being the prettiest he's seen? Just cause he's on a females profile, liking a status or a pic DOES NOT mean he's fucking anybody. How bout this "IIN for a girl to assume her dude is a liar and a cheater because of who's fb profile he looks at?" HELL NO. GROW UP. when you went thru (evading his privacy) his history, how many guy profiles were viewed or pages etc...... Quit jumping to conclusions

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  • ants91shearer
    10 years ago

    i do this all the time

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  • ants91shearer
    10 years ago

    hes on the prow

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    Oh honestly its a dude so yah thats normol but its disrespectful to you , so tell him not to do it anymoe becuase thats just rude he is dishonoring you honey "

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  • Thereisnogod
    12 years ago

    I have been with my gf for six years and I have eyeballs as you know. I see a profile of a girl with a huge rack in a bikini and say not why but why not. Men love looking at girls that is all, I compare it to a shoe sale where all the shoes are displayed in their glory on a website as you scroll through them with wide eyes.

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  • emilymummy
    12 years ago

    My bf was looking and chatting up girls on fb. I caught him out and went through his phone. He had numbers from these girls on his phone and I went mad at him. We fought physically. I told him I would never forget how much he'd hurt me! We are still together and he no longer uses fb. It's bad news that site. I don't know why men do it. Don't tell him you know about the pics because if he really wants to look he will find other ways of doing it again and he'll hide it from you by deleting history etc. Just keep your eye on what he's doing and in the meantime decide whether you want to stay in this relationship or not. It could just be a phase he's going through before he settles down and spends his life with you...... Look after yourself x

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    • chatter289
      12 years ago

      Agreed. Don't tell you him you know.. just yet. Keep it calm and cool, see what you can gather, you need strong evidence for certain things before you can say anything to him. Keep a note of everything you have seen and then in the end, sit down with one of ur girlfriends and look at the situatios from a 3rd person perspective, it will be hard at firs but try your best.

      I know how it feels, hell, our ot curiosity i do check my bf history, not that i dont trust him, although he HAS given me SOO many reasons, but in the end its curiosity on my part, i am beyong curious... too curious its going to be the death of me lol.

      good luck honey xx

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    I do that. Not with just girls but my guy friends too. Only because I'm curious time to time and want to see how they are doing and how much they changed, but it sounds like that's not the case for him.

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  • buttons
    12 years ago

    I would say that there is definitely a problem in the relationship. If you felt the need to check his computer, then there was something in you from the beginning that did not really trust him. This was confirmed by what you found. Take a look back and examine the whole relationship fully and go with what you feel... Do you want to be with someone you are having doubts about?

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