Is it normal for another guy to take your girlfriend out to eat?

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Hi all,
I have a girlfriend and we have been together for 3 years. I also have a friend and he isn't so close to me now and my girlfriend too. But my girlfriend sometimes say once a fortnight goes out to eat dessert with him. He asks her out to eat. Now I don't know the detail but she tells me about it so shes not hiding it. From your opinion, is it normal for a guy to just ask a girl to go eat when he knows she's in a relationship? I mean for myself I would never ask a girl to go eat together with no one else. Why? Because say even if didn't have a girlfriend, it is not right to be going out to eat ALONE with another friends girlfriend. What do you guys think or am I over-reacting?

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It depends. Does she at least ask if you want to join sometimes or at all? If not, and she seems wishy-washy or unreasonably defensive/aggressive (i.e. "You think I'm cheating?!" or "You think I can't have my own friends!?") about you coming along with her on these outings with him, then something is really wrong.

    Personally, I would always give my boyfriend the option of joining me if I were to hang out with friends, especially friends he known before me, unless it's one of those girls only hang outs.

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  • BlackyHancock
    8 years ago

    It's normal if he wants more than just taking her out to eat.

    He probably wants to eat her out.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    It's unusual but if you trust that it's only to eat dessert I'd accept it if I were you, while keeping in mind that "eating dessert" could easily be a euphemism for something else. Why don't you ask if you can come along with her? It would be easier to suss out if there's anything going on if you saw how they interact with each other

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  • JayBurgundy
    8 years ago

    I don't think you're over reacting, but if it were me, I would be pretty angry bro. Just because she's telling you about it doesn't mean she's telling you everything. But at the same time, you shouldn't blow it out of proportion without any facts.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago

    I didn't realise a meal was the same as fucking.

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  • iEatZombies_
    8 years ago

    Whether this is okay or not varies on the situation. Just because you're eating with someone doesn't mean you think of them inappropriately. It really has much more to do with body language, what they do before or after, what they talk about during, etc. I mean, if he's like kissing her and holding her hand or something then obviously it's something to get pissy about. But if they're just shitting and giggling, it doesn't really matter that they're eating together.
    Honestly, even if he likes her in that way, if he doesn't voice it to -her-, then he's being respectful and it's no big deal.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If they have been friends since before you got together with the girl, then you really have no say in it. If this is a relatively new development, I'd not be very happy about it but you don't own the girl, so there's not much you can do but express your displeasure, if it does indeed upset you.

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  • deepdankstickygoo
    8 years ago

    You may need to invest in a few garbage bags.

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