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Is it normal for an older man to go after a young girl? By young I don't mean two or three years apart. This girl is from ten to twenty years younger than him. Is this acceptable? Is it normal? What would you do if this girl was your daughter?
I am 11 years younger than my long term boyfriend. I am 27 so I think it might be a bit different then you are describing. If she is still living in your house, I would say she is not mature enough to make her own decions (hence not being mature or able enough to live on her own). She might fall into a trap or control. You know her best and hopefully you have talked to him enough to know what his intentions are. Unfortunately all you can do is advise and recommend and scare the f* out of the man so he only has one option :to treat her properly. Maybe buy a gun.... lol just an idea.
Also explain the consequences to your daughter - he might not want kids nor get married.... you know all of that stuff.
Normal. In fact a lot of women date older guys and vice verse. Unfortunately for me though my dad is one of these men.
I'd say it's normal...(Waits for a certain user to come rage at me even though most people are saying the same).
OMG you are so bloody stupid ajnajfbkejbnvkjrvcfjvnkjrgvnkjfn arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!
Haha just kidding:P I actually agree, it is normal for older men to want to go out with younger women.
...So, you agree with me that older men want younger women but not that women want older men?...
Surely it's not a mystery why I tend to get irritated when you say things like that.
Not trying to cause an argument, but surely even you see how irritating that is.
Wait...are you actually taking the piss? After that argument we had which seemed to go on what felt like forever surely you realised that my ONLY problem was why you thought it was a fact. Not the fact itself.
And the fact itself isn't the same as this, you were saying that most women date older men, which maybe true, but that's completely different to saying that the act itself is normal:) I hope that makes sense.
And surely you realise how irritating it is having to have a giant discussion because you can't understand one small point!
I know you think I dislike you, but I couldn't care less. And as for you comment below too Anime, I find it funny how you say all people do here is attack each other when you are a prime example of that. It seems we can't even have a discussion without you insulting me constantly:L!
...-Sigh- You said at the start of it that I was wrong. You said "What!?! No they aren't"...If you deny that, then I'm not going to continue this discussion, because yes, you're main point might of been that I don't have fact to back what I said up, but you still didn't believe me to be right.
Bananaface, I understand that all too well, as should you.
Something being normal and something happening the majority of the time are very closely linked together. It's considered to be normal because it's an constant accurance in the present time, and in some cases, the present area.
Actually, you were the first one to insult me on our last discussion. You said I make "crazy generalisations", "Stupid claims", "You claim to be someone that comments on logic" (Implying I'm stupid) which are all insulting.
After all those, I said something that can't even be considered a full insult, but had a nip of insult in it, so I stopped reading after I seen what I said that has a nip of insult in it, but if I was to consider it as not an insult in the slightest, I assure you the list would go on.
So, yeah. If anyone starts the insults, it's you to me.
I hardly ever reply to people that don't reply to me first. If I insult people directly, it's because they have insulted me first. But hey, just for the thought of entertaining the thought that I do this all the time, I would be happy to see a few stories that I start insulting people before they insult me.
Like you say "Show me proof".
Firstly, I explained that comment several times, so please stop bringing it up:) We all make misinterpretations and mistakes, like I said I explained it and surely you can understand it.
As for the insults, I deliberately tried not to say anything blatant, and if you interpreted what I said as an insult then that's you not me really. Everyone makes crazy generalisations and stupid claims, even the best of us. Does it represent who we are? Only if we aren't willing to change it.
Unless you have any pressing issues with what I just said then I'd really like for us to have a clean slate, because believe it or not I actually like your bluntness and your views on quite a few things, just sometimes I have a few issues, just like most people do with everyone they meet.
Anywhooooo, normal behaviour is a strange thing really. To me, I've never liked the whole statistical frequency thing, which would mean that you are 100% in saying they are closely linked. But to me, it just doesn't get in amongst the actual psychology of it, if you know what I mean? For example, depression is quite common nowadays, but far from normal and can be quite severe to a persons health. I think the behaviour is very normal, and has been proven, but for different reasons than how frequently it occurs:) So in a sense you're right, but I just think it needs adding to a bit. Just my thoughts:)
Thanks. Yes, that's most likely why they don't like what I say, because I don't sugar coat everything.
I would probably say that more people dislike me than people like me, although, I think of quality over quantity. Sure, I might not have alot of people like me on here, but I do/did have the best users like me and understand my point of view. Alot of those users left now due to the new way IIN is turning, too many people trying to attack others for the expression of their opinion rather than ppeople trying to have a conversation to understand why people have the opinion they do. It seems even if you believe in your own opinion, you get attacked for it. So in their eyes, I might be an asshole, but I don't randomly attack other users for having their own opinion.
Much like why you got two thumbs down just for expressing that "you" enjoy my input. That is a fine example that people don't even like it when a user likes another user or likes their input.
True words. I miss all the old users, however, it was sort expected. Most websites that I've seen, that are meant to offer advice, usually decay in the same fashion. It sucks but as long as their are still people, like you and I, who still speak their minds hope is not lost.
a few years ago I had full sex with a gorgeous cutie (about 12/13) in China. How can you resist when they are so yummy and willing? I am a man !!!
If the two of you like each other then that's all that matters. Just don't have sex or force her to do anything against her will. Be honest with her parents. It's only creepy if you come off like a creep or try to get in her pants. If you are confident and believe in the relationship then it won't matter what others may think.
Yes age is just a number...i am 23 and my lover is 63...i like many type of people ...old...young...boys or girls.it is not important what they are is important how they are...but i prefer old people because i'm more atracted by them
It's very common and accepted in today's society as long as both ppl are of legal age. My opinion I wouldn't date anyone older than 10 years apart cuz large gap in years can mean differences in modes of communication, interests, and lifestyle but to each his own.
If she is of legal age of consent, yes, I would say it is very normal.
In my experience, women (after they have had kids and who can blame them?) tend to mentally age more quickly than men and lose their youthful energy (exceptions abound, of course), so men go looking for women with that energy and those women sometimes tend to be younger.
Now if the woman is under the age of consent, that's not normal and that's a problem.
Age is just a number until you're explaining it the the judge.
Men don't go after younger women because they have energy. They do it because they are less opinionated, more loving and better looking
I am inclined to agree with that. Many of the older men that I know that go for younger women go for them because the younger women are better with kids and willing to do for their men and don't have that self-entitlement issue. Women in their age range are of that "female empowerment" generation where they believe that "women's work" is overrated and think that men should do for them more than they do for men (which makes no sense because in a household, you have to pull your own weight, right?) so maybe that explains the whole opinionated and less loving thing. As for looks, it probably ties in with the "female empowerment" deal (he has to be up to par but I shouldn't be).
I was 17 and I had a relationship- for want of a more appropriate word- with a then 32 year old man.
To me, then, age is just a number.