Is it normal for an adult feel this way after being sexually abused

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One of my very good friends is feeling so low about herself because she was sexually abused as a child by her father. At tbe age of 17 she was pregnant with a child. So she and her high school sweetheart got married. She dropped out of high school. Never had s wedding, prom, birthdays, baby showers. She has been married for 33 years. Her and husband SEEM to get along great, but in reality she said her husband only pays attention to her when he wants to get in bed with her. So here she is all down because her dad(SOB) told her that's all she is worth of (getting in bed with) and nothing else. So she feels like every guy thinks about her that way. Than all the sudden she started having a crush for this guy at work because he pays attention to her so to say without her havingto get in bed with him. This guy now that she has crush on is engaged, has two children n is the biggest flirt ever. She knows this about him and most of all he is almost the age of one of her children. So I am trying to help her get through this. I don't know how. But I am. However I need to know that is this normal?

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  • Charlie075
    11 years ago

    U can't just "let go of" your past. Sexual abuse as a child forms who u believe you are and your self worth. Your friend should talk to someone who specialized in childhood sexual abuse or maybe get a couple of books on the subject or join online support groups with others like her. I was abused as a child, trust me, every decision u make is based on who "they" told you that you were.

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    • kingsleycrowne
      11 years ago

      There are ways to, yeah. What I mean by let go is accept that it happened and move on from it. There are psychological ways of achieving this.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    She needs to let go of the past and accept herself. With self belief she can move on with her life, have better chances of finding fruitful relationships as she won't be as vulnerable or susceptible to the douchebags.

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