Is it normal for an adult daughter to control the entire family?

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My husband's daughter controls the entire family. Her husband, brother, mother-n-law and father wait on her. She works three days a week and the other two days she has family babysit her child when he is not in day care. If she has a child's birthday party someone has to spend three days at her house to help her. If one person can not sit she tells another they have to take the child that day. If we are at her grandparents for dinner everyone but her and her husband helps out. She is a true princess.

Another strange thing - she is constantly with her brother and also depends on him for many things. If out with the family it is her and the brother who sit together and walk together with the husband trailing behind. Her father is scared to death to cross her or tell her NO. He gives her cars, money and jumps whenever she wants something. I feel that I could be lying in the road dying and she would yell "Dad I need a tissue" and Dad would leave me and go get her a tissue. She orders everyone to do things, "tea please", "get my child a drink of water", "feed the dog", "my child needs you to buy him a bed", "pick up the child, take him for the day and bring him home late, bathed and ready for bed:, "get me a cup cake", "I need money to buy another home". I think this is an unusall family situation and I am con cerned that my husband is way too scared of this girl. He does whatever she tells him. She also bosses me around. "If Dad can not do this then you must do it for me".

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  • squirrelgirl
    11 years ago

    Not normal. I recommend getting into family therapy, or going on Dr. Phil.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    No it's not normal not normal at all she needs a swift kick up the bum.

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  • Loh
    11 years ago

    Next time just look at her and say ''Ain't nobody got time for dat.''

    Or fucking get rid of her. Buy her a new house alright: FAR AWAY FROM YOU GUYS!

    And wtf she's probably having a crush on her bro or something ew gross i'd jump that bitch.

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  • FredSumper23
    11 years ago

    That's not normal or a healthy family relationship. What I recommend is getting a tazer. If she tells you to do something say "no" and ZAP! No chance of physical retaliation. And tell her if she does it again you'll do it somewhere even more painful. I'm not sure where but get creative! (I feel like Diction when he's doing one of his "Bad Advice With Diction"). But seriously. She deserves it and I don't think anybody will be upset if you do.

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  • Antir0b0t
    10 years ago

    You know she's not the ONLY one at fault here right? WHY DO YOU SUPPORT THIS CRAZY BULLSHIT?!

    If you all go along and let her behave that way it will only get worse, believe it or not. You have to tell a child how to behave, this woman is clearly a child seeing as she appears incapable of caring for herself let alone a child of her own.

    Or maybe your resentment towards her is causing her to appear like a vile serpent? Who knows, I can say that you need to make your voice heard or keep letting her screw you, too.

    You cannot expect change with out effort.

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  • Βaτмaη
    10 years ago

    I'm batman.

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  • Kura
    11 years ago

    Man she sounds annoying. =/

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  • merpderpherp
    11 years ago

    She sounds like a dick.

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  • independentblackwoman
    11 years ago

    didn't read lol

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Family therapy.

    Good Luck!

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    You know it's not normal. However, your incredible resentment of your husband's daughter may also be coloring your perception of her. Every line of your post has a subtext of "I hate her I hate her I hate her!" in it, and that's making me wonder if you aren't filtering your perception of her through that intense dislike and (possibly) jealousy.

    Have you tried talking to your husband or other family members about why they permit this? Did she almost die as a child, so now everyone spoils her? Did she grow up with special needs and become used to having other people do things for her? Is she so polite and charming that people just do kind things for her out of love -- well, everyone but you?

    That line about "I could be dying in the road, and he'd leave me to get her a tissue" suggests you're also feeling jealous, that you have a need to compete with her for her father's time. That's a serious issue. What does he say when you bring it up with him?

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    • strangebuttrue
      11 years ago

      Thank you for your response. I do not hate her. Perhaps I am resentful of her controlling my husband. Our life resloves around her schedule and wants. She did not almost die as a child nor did she have special needs. She does not come across as a nasty person, she is exceptionally charming. My husband frequently says she is a "princess" and says he will talk to her but he never has this "talk". He is scared to death of her,worried she will ignore him or reject him.

      I do many things for her because I want to help when possible. I will take care of the child when he is ill and keep him overnight when they have plans. I love this kid!

      Again, thank you for your response. It was well thought out and made me examine my resentments. I will be more careful in the future with my complaints about her behavior.

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  • sisterlover
    11 years ago

    it depends. Is she hot and willing to uhhhh oh baby.. that's what daddy likes

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    • Βaτмaη
      10 years ago

      I'm batman

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