Is it normal for an 18 year old to be with a 15 year old?

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I'm 18th, and I'm crazy for this 15 year old girl. I'm 19 in September and she's 16 in November (this was posted in May). Is this normal? I've been jeered by people, called a pedophile and all this, but I've never connected with someone on such a profound level, and she's incredibly beautiful.
I love her.

So my feelings are genuine, is this normal?

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    18 / 2 = 9. 9 + 7 = 16. well i did the math. she is a little to young sorry. and think about it, how you were at 15 and how diffrent you are, just 3 years later. Teens change at the flip of a hat, so id beware about investing too much into a relationship with someone still in the middle of highschool

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    • XOXO...
      12 years ago

      i agree at 15 i believed in Twilight and never even payed attention to sex in our society aside from sex ed.. 4 years later i laugh when i go see the twilight movies 'mutter this is a load of bullshit" and poinnt out the sex-ism and everything also im ready for alot more such as a career.. pondering which is a good age to have kids and working on a 2nd apartment!! broo too young too young she probably still watches disney or freaks out over kissing and crushes it might seem innocent but not cool.. i tried to date a 18 yeard old at 14 and someone like 25 at 17 the age and maturity difference was VAST VERY VAST for those few years... but if this didnt convince yuu watch true lifeima sex offender (teen addition) guy- 19 girl- 16 guy goes to jail cos parent didnt understand his "genuine feelings" yuu ready to be dissed for 10 years or more

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      • Uzzie101
        12 years ago

        No offence intended here, but you sound like you were an exceptionally immature 15 year old, and that you haven't really come on much if you "laugh" at Twilight.

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        • XOXO...
          12 years ago

          well considering i was one of the billions of other girls that ate that crap up one thing is fer sure im normal in that sense... and its a give and take cos twilight is hilarious when yuu really think about it its an incompetent girl with a boyfriend whose parents were tinker bell and dracula and a werewolf who seems great until at the end where he becomes forever bound by love or imprinting to an 8 year old (whose 8 forever and hesgonna make little hybrid babies with)... even at 15 that didint seem right... then the whole plot is held together by scorned girls and misunderstandings SO SORRY FOR FINDING THE HUMOR IN TWILIGHT!!

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          • Uzzie101
            11 years ago

            I'm saying that series like Twilight have always existed for that market. Finding it funny is a little strange, considering. I mean, why? Just tolerate it, it's no different from any other pseudo-romantic crap.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      The equation never lies

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    In terms of the law, the law says that you can't have any type of SEXUAL relationship with persons under the age of 18, 17 or 16 (depends on the state's law).

    However, I truly believe that the age difference isn't the biggest deal in the world. What difference really, does it make? I do believe that, being a 15 year old, her maturity and life skills are not as developed. But all of that doesn't mean a person older can't develop feelings with that person. I do draw the line at persons who are 14 or under. Something like that because at that age, you are too immature, and young, that it really does become inappropriate.

    All I have to say is that you're gonna have a fine line to walk. It's ok to have a relationship, but anymore MORE, you know, is illegal. Good luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thanks Who_Fan, you're probably my favorite commenter

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      • Who_Fan4Life
        12 years ago

        Wow, what an honor. Thank you!

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    Umm, depending on your location, but chances are it is ILLEGAL, whether you think its normal or not.

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    • tbiM20
      12 years ago

      I should add, if you respect her you should chill out on the relationship thing. You have the time to wait! I was 15 and dated a 19-year-old, and while I would not want to insult you by equating you to that... "guy"... I do have a few pointers:

      As a teenage girl, she is particularly gullible and easily influenced. We get influenced to try everything from different hair styles to different drugs.

      We all change through our teenage years and early twenties. You will not be the same at age, say, 25, as you are today. Likewise, she will be a very different person when she turns 18 than she is today.

      Your maturity levels, no matter how each of you behave, are vastly different. So are your lives - she's planning a sleep-over for her 16th birthday while youre out looking for employment.

      Intentionally or not, you WILL be the older, influential roll model. Also a young girl can be easily intimidated by an older guy - if youre serious about this, is that the kind of relationship you want?

      She will likely get picked on in school for being "loose". Girls are vindictive, and love an easy target.

      Because of the age difference, it'll be difficult to relate to each other on anything more than a superficial basis. Sure there'll be a couple things, but you will both get frustrated with each other - but you more than her, due to her inexperience & immaturity.

      She will have difficulties in her family if they dont approve. If state law allows, they may even press charges against you. You are the older one, so you will be the only one with a sex crime permanently stamped on your record. Kiss employment goodbye.

      Luck is against you for this relationship lasting more than a couple years at most. That said, no matter what initiates it, the breakup will be ugly and rough for both of you. It may very well be traumatizing, or even violent (though I would hope you both have that much self-control at least, all those little arguments, each time she felt inferior or you felt inadequate, will culminate in a big explosion eventually.)

      So, I'd really really advise against this. However, if you are determined that you can't simply be friends without a relationship, at least take the time to check your local/state laws on statuatory rape and dating a minor.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        12 years ago

        Thanks for the advice. I won't intimidate her, that's not like me. I get the impression the guy you dated was an absolute douchebag...

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        • MnMxx
          12 years ago

          Hey, I know this is random but I like younger guys, but only by 2 years or two years ahead of me, like,
          I have 1 9 yrf old guy friends and they adore me -__- and Im happy about that, I find younger guys sweeter, like I'm 22 and I only date guys 18+ and up.

          buuut 15 is to young :X my ex is 19 just turned 20 and dates a 15 yr old who is as old as my little sister or one of her friends, I think that's disturbing but that's just me cause my little sister is only 14 ya know? but wait till she is at least 18 :/ ...

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        • tbiM20
          12 years ago

          He was. Lol.. BUT, learning experience, blah blah, story for another day ;-)

          but my meaning was not that you would do it intentionally, more that its kinda natural for a girl that age to be intimidated just by the fact you are older.

          You seem nice, & I don't expect you to intentionally do anything, just thought I'd mention some things to look out for/expect, despite your best intentions.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    Guys I'm so in love it's actually making me anxious.

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  • mj63
    12 years ago

    it's completely fine, ignore everyone who says it's illegal... pretty sure if you two end up together and your 26 and she's 23 no ones gonna bat an eyelid. My parents have been together for 30 years and my mum was 16 and my dad 20, yeahh it's hard atm cuz she's young and a minor but in two years when she's 17 and your 20 it won't matter so just ignore every1 :) good luckk

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  • solidman
    12 years ago

    no i dont think your a pedophile, because my friends cousin in 19 and she her boyfriend is 24years old. and the girl of my dreams (eather that or just obsesing about) shes 18 and her boyfriend is 22years old so i geus your in the clear. ooo and ps i think you should be more than 4years older than her to be a pedo.

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    I don't think this is normal but it happens a lot these days I blame the Internet!' find someone ur own age. good bye

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      It was far more common in the past, actually.

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  • Raverbasher
    12 years ago

    It's fine, it was exactly the same for me & my 1st serious gf, we were together for 3 yrs & still keep in touch. Also, my dad just go remarried to a girl 18 years younger than him so 3 years really isn't a big deal. Don't worry about it.

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    • tbiM20
      12 years ago

      3 years is a big deal at that age. 3 years - 25 & 28, for instance, is not so big deal, but there is a huge maturity difference between 15 & 18, or 12 & 15, or 17 & 20.

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  • tommy81
    12 years ago

    Those calling you a pedophile don't even know what the word actually means. It's a term used to describe a post-pubescent person (Yes, even teenagers) who is sexually attracted to prepubescent children. It's not a term used to describe a legal adult who is sexually attracted to post-pubescent persons under the age of 18.

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  • thinkwithlogics
    12 years ago

    Ask the cops then her parents they can probably answer your question better than anyone here.lol

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  • Brickinit
    12 years ago

    Cool ya boots, she's still a minor... Get reported then your on a sex offenders list the rest of your life...

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  • AL_Ranger
    12 years ago

    Hmm it is technically illegal to go the distance (where I am anyway) but tbh this is all too common. I mean, I have a friend whose 19 and is seeing a 15yo (and she only just turned 15). If the two of you really like eachother then you cant stop the relationship. My advice to avoid haters would be to not do anything too sexual till she turns 16.

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  • kelso
    12 years ago

    Most states have "Romeo and Juliet" laws where as long as the couples have only a 3-4 year gap, they're safe even if one is underage. So chances are your relationship is legal. Normal? I'd say yes. But maybe wait a bit before getting into anything serious.

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    • tbiM20
      12 years ago

      True, some rules still apply tho. Example, 15 can date 18 in my state, w/o sex, or w/ sex if permission granted by the parents, or get married w/ parental consent. 16 & up, age of consent applies, but if the child says in court it wasn't consentual then its a sex crime against a minor. 15 & 21, totally illegal, but 16 & 21 is ok.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    You should wait till she's closer to your age. Don't have sex with her or people will really start to call you a perv. Please wait. She too young and most likely not of age where you live.

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  • [email protected]
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal bc I started dating my bf when I just turned 15 n he was 19 at the time n we got weird looks and rude comments but it didn't matter bc we loved eachother and age is just a number and I am happy to say I am still with him and I still love as much as the first day we met so if you love a person don't let anything get in your way of being inlove

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    • tbiM20
      12 years ago

      And you're, what, 15 1/2 now?

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      • [email protected]
        12 years ago

        No I am now 19 we been together since I just turned 15 we been together for 5 years now

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1
      12 years ago

      age is just a number is a famous line from a pediphile, true story

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