Is it normal for active addicts to pick on recovered addicts?

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I'm a recovered drug addict and ex-smoker. I've worked really hard to achieve sobriety and I exercise every day and eat properly too. My housemate is an alcoholic (in complete denial) who smokes all day long. He loves to pick on me for anything he can think of. Is this normal? I never rub it in his face but through no fault of my own, I make him feel bad about himself so he lashes out at me.

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    He probably knows deep within himself. But he does not have the will or conviction to get clean. He is taking the comfortable and easy option but I'd dare say that within himself be hates what he has become. And yes I think you are right it makes him feel bad about himself knowing you have achieved something he is to scared to face and do himself. All we can do in situations like this I think is be there for people when they do want to have a good crack at sobriety and offer support where needed.

    Oh and congrats on your achievement too by the way, you should be proud of yourself.

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  • ALCOHOLPOISONING
    11 years ago

    cal da popo

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Jealousy can make people volatile.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Congrats on your sobriety! I'm currently trying to get off the smoking bandwagon. :( I'm sorry about your roommate, perhaps you should look into getting a new one. I couldn't imagine quitting smoking and being around a chain smoker while home - it would only give me a handy excuse to start smoking again, especially with his attitude. Good luck! :)

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  • JoeMomma
    11 years ago

    Why go alcoholic, when you can be a drunk! Alcoholics go to meetings, drunks go to parties!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      and spend nights in the lockup,
      get a lifetime driving ban,
      grope women at parties,
      beat their wives,
      get kicked out of home by wife and child,
      age very rapidly,
      then lose their job,
      and cry themselves to sleep,
      and move to men's hostels
      to die a lonely death.
      DRINK UP, IT"S PARTY TIME!

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      • Mraaronbill
        11 years ago

        Well said !

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Thank you.

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          • Mraaronbill
            11 years ago

            So true , all of the above has happened to me , all because I was too blind see what my aclcloholism was doing to myself and others around me !! It makes sick to think about it ! At least I realised young enough to do something about it (25) . Getting sober ain't easy though . Everyday is a battle .

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  • healmybrokenheart
    11 years ago

    Your room mate is an ass. He is jealous of you because your recovered. Way to go! Anyone who tries to pick on you or make you feel bad is only jealous. He probably secretly wishes he could do it too. That doesnt sound like a good environment for you, maybe considering moving into a healthier place with people who have similar habits. Maybe you could give him the local AA number or meeting place. Good Luck

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      He moved out last week, thank God. I tried to get rid of him for months but he wouldn't go. No I have a clause in the contract: "If you're an active addict and your behaviour is antisocial, I will give you 14 days to vacate. If you can't find accommodation, go to a youth hostel and we'll hold your stuff for you."

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I'm jealous of what you've achieved. I want to quit smoking but it's so difficult.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    First off, congratulations! With your roommate, his teasing of you could be coming from jealousy. Perhaps, you could look for a new one?

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    I think that's pretty common, but I think you should get away from him if you can. Having somebody pressuring you is the last thing you need right now.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Tell him to go fuck himself and move out. He's jealous of you. Be proud of yourself!!!!

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Pick, lol.

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