Is it normal for a straight guy to...?

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I'm a straight guy, with a beautiful girlfriend who I love more than anything. Lately I have began to try to get her on my page about anal play, specifically anal play on me and it seems she just doesn't understand and is just assuming I'm bisexual.

To start with, I can accept that I'm pretty quirky in bed:
- I like to play both the dominant and the submissive.
- When I cum in my girlfriends mouth, I ask her to kiss me and spit the cum in my mouth for me to swallow.
- I like her to use her fingers to penetrate me whilst giving me head.
- I like to lick cum from her vagina after sex.
- When I masturbate, I like to cum in my mouth/on my face.
- I can suck my own penis and do so on a regular basis.

I recently bought a dildo and 3 anal plugs with intent to use them on myself, my girlfriend knew I bought them. At first, she was okay with the idea, but now she's not so sure, she said she's okay with the anal plugs, but the dildo is realistic and very large (8 inches) and she says she's not comfortable with it, she says she is more uncomfortable with the realistic aspect rather than the fact that I want to use it on myself. So I think she might feel as though I'm bisexual and will end up wanting penis more than her, I try to tell her that I'm straight and don't want sex with guys or anything and that it's only a piece of rubber and will not change anything between us, I won't want to use it over having sex with her or anything, but she's not convinced.

She has asked me to get rid of them because she is not comfortable with it, but I want to just make her understand that it's only for my use and it wouldn't change things between us.

So please, someone tell me what you think.

And if any girls read this, I would like to know if you would be okay with this if you were in my girlfriends position and what you'd do about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    None of those things are gay. Gay or bi men like the touch of another man, not plastic replications.

    If your gf doesn't like it, I don't know what to say. We all have our likes and dislikes. She'll either grow to like playing these things with you, or you'll discover that you two are not sexually compatible.

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    • Jordan_9118
      9 years ago

      Other than my anal fetish, we are very good together though, I just want her to be okay with this, even if she doesn't involve herself and just let's me get on with it in my personal time I'd be happy enough:/ it's reassuring that there are people who see it my way though, maybe she'll come around one day

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I hope so. Sounds like you're really into her.

        Good luck!

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        • Jordan_9118
          9 years ago

          Thanks!:-)

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  • SarahLJ
    9 years ago

    You cant help what you like.. If she's not up for it, then she doesn't have to, but she cant stop you from doing things on your own, and cant expect you to go the rest of your life without simple pleasures you enjoy.. That wouldn't be fair..

    In short - she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to, and neither do you. So go for it, and I hope for you that she joins in at some point of her own free will.

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    • Jordan_9118
      9 years ago

      But I think we may end up breaking up because of it, maybe not directly, but because she is uncomfortable, it may cause tension and arguments etc.

      In short, I want the best of both worlds, I want my girlfriend to understand and to be able to do what I enjoy in my spare time, I mean, it's only a piece of rubber and she knows I masturbate anyway, so I can't see the issue with making my alone time a little more interesting if it won't effect our relationship:/

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    Obviously she doesn't have to participate, but she shouldn't tell you what you can and can't enjoy on your own. Not sure what to tell you about how to actually make her comfortable with it, there's a pretty strong stigma against straigh guys enjoying anal stimulation which sucks:/

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    • Jordan_9118
      9 years ago

      Oh, also, she is okay with anal stimulation, she fingers me and doesn't mind my anal plugs, it's just the dildo:/

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      • Gspyder
        9 years ago

        Nice, me and my girlfriend mess around like that too. In that case I'd say just get rid of the problem and find a less-realistic one at least until she becomes more comfortable. She just has to get to the point where she starts viewing it as another way you can enjoy as a couple instead of "what gays do."

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    • Jordan_9118
      9 years ago

      I know, I hate stigmas! It's a piece if rubber for crying out loud! It's got no guy attached to it! and the penis shape is simply explained; penises are evolutionary designed to feel good!

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