Is it normal for a spouse to move after a loss of a parent?

Synopsis:
One of my husbands parents was brutally murdered in another town. He decided to move from our current apartment without consulting me much saying basically “we have to move; it’s for the better, we need a better apartment, fresh start”. We had/have no help moving. I am mentally and physically sick so I could/can not help much.

*****Please no mean or non helpful, insulting, inappropriate, off topic, rude responses like, “you need to proof read”, “ you can’t write,” “I would never deal with that bullsh*t...” “he’s a stupid jerk”, “divorce him”. “ your not very smart to deal with that”. “Why don’t you tell him how you feel”.”you’re just lazy and need to help out”

I just would like your mature, but honest thoughts without name calling please. Let’s be mature. Even a kind word.

I tried to anticipate your questions and have tried to be as thorough as possible. I know the sentences are not structured correctly, punctuations may be wrong. There may be a few spelling errors. II did write a lot. If this offends you - please don’t read anymore. I did provide a short synopsis

Synopsis repeated:
One of my husbands parents was brutally murdered in another town. He decided to move from our apartment without consulting me much saying basically “we have to move; it’s for the better, we need a better apartment, fresh start”. We had/have no help moving. I am mentally and physically sick so I could/can not help much.

Introduction

I understand my spouses parent visited us numerous times in our old apartment and there are memories that my husband may want to forget or move on and one way to do that is “move on” to an all together different apartment. I understand people deal with grief differently.

My spouse after a year of one of his parents died decided for us to move after our lease was up. He didn’t consult me, he just went along with the process. I am guilty for not protesting enough and agreeing to it. I really don’t have the energy or mental capacity to move, cleaning and all the things that come with moving.

We now are in the process of moving and I am more overwhelmed than ever- tomorrow we have to give in the keys to the old place and it still needs lots of cleaning and all the furniture is still not out. The carpet needs to at least be vacuumed. The walls have marker and crayon, color pencil marks which we need to cleaned.

I have clinical anxiety and depression and take medication. Furthermore, I have a condition very similar to lupus where I have very low white blood cells, leucopenia and an auto immune disorder. I tire easily and fatigue fast.

My spouse didn’t hire movers, I thought he did until I saw he purchased a hand truck (I know I could have too but time dwindled down and once we checked he said they all were way out of our price range).

I asked friends for help, hubby declined. It’s just us two doing everything with a baby, a dog, a cat, shopping cart, car and a hand truck.

We have a 2 year old baby as mentioned. My spouse is doing most of the physical labor as I take care of the baby but it causes me anxiety. I hurt to see him doing so much. My spouse says he can do it all on his own and I need not to worry. I am extremely worried. I was happy or, at least, ok where we were living. I am not unhappy where we are as the apartment is updated but I just don’t have the capacity to help the way I want to.

I was recently diagnosed and doctors are still trying to figure out my blood disorder and how to fix it so I gain my energy back.

I am still grieving the loss and suffering great anxiety and depression as we been married almost 15 years and I was very very close to the parent that passed. I explained to my husband I am mentally and physically exhausted and all he says is “this is for the best”. I can’t see past today because we have one apartment that needs to be completely empty and totally cleaned up. If not, we lose our security deposit-( despite paying a non-refundable $250 dollars). The new apartment needs to be totally organized which it is not.

Everything feels like chaos. Yes I explained everything I am telling you to my spouse. One of my friends offered to help but my partner totally declined as if all was under control and said this move is “personal” . I need peace.

We only been in the old apartment for two years and our child is two.

Please no mean or non helpful responses like “he’s a stupid jerk, divorce him”. “ your not very smart to deal with that”. “Why don’t you tell him how you feel” I just would like your mature thoughts. Even a kind word.