Is it normal for a serious relationship to be this way?

Is it normal for a relationship to be like this??

First some background info..

I met my fiancé in the last year if school.. We both liked each other a lot but being shy ppl we never done nothing about it. School finished and we lost touch of each other. We were always thinking of each other and wondered what the other one was doing.

15 years later I found her on Facebook and I made contact with her which put a massive smile on her face.. She was in a different state but we decided to catch up with each-other. We still had feelings for each other at this stage. We kept in contact and one thing lead to another and we feel deeply for each other. She has 3 kids to 2 fathers (both are dead beats) It's now been nearly 2 years, 3 months of that engaged.

About 6 months ago things started to change. We argue a lot, and mostly over stupid stuff. She gets very angry very quickly, shows very little affection towards me. I still show her alot of affection. She doesn't want to do anything with me, her statement "I would rather go out with my friends then go out with you" and "I would rather have my 4y/o son in the bed then have you in the room" really broke me. I have provided a nice house, car, living expenses, unconditional love and commitment to her and the kids. I love them kids like my own and am a good stepdad to them. I've seen a difference with the kids since I have been in their lives. I work away for 3 weeks at a time and only back for 1 week before I have to go back. She never seems happy to see me when I return. She says that she loves me a lot but hardly ever touches,kisses or cuddles me. I know for a fact that there is no one else. I just don't understand how it could have gone from awesome in every way to what we have now.. Is there something wrong with me.. Am i being overly sensitive?.. Is this normal for a woman to do this in a serious relationship?

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6% Normal
Based on 47 votes (3 yes)
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Comments ( 10 )
  • Ramit10

    Someone who is like that towards a person that provides to them is a bitch. I would of ended it long ago but seriously I know it sucks with kids but thats not a reason to have to stay with her. You can try talking to her but it will prob end up with her mad at you. I can gurrentee that if you tell her you are kicking her out she will be all lovly dovy to you and want to make things right. It might be fine for a couple months but she will just go back to doing the same thing. Sounds like she just wants a free place to live.

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  • thebuddah

    2 different baby dads that were dead beats and most likely treated her like crap. And now you're in the pic treating her like a queen... Seems to me like this is the type of woman that likes being treated badly.(believe it or not they exist) you really shouldn't marry her. Is she found a guy that was better looking with a bad boy mentality she'll leave you for him. That kind of woman doesn't like being treated nicely. She thinks men that beat her are more manly! Get rid of her

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  • BlueAlice

    She's a gold-digger with no self-esteem. Leave her, block off all contact with her but still be in touch with the kids

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  • fuZi8n

    Same way with my mom and stepdad, all though in my case my stepdad is the asinine one

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  • She's probaly sucking another guy off

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  • BlackMamba

    Leave this bitch. I would say horrible and cruel things back to her if she said that shit to you.

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  • opal-leaves

    Unfortunetly this is vvery sad to hear. Love is so powerful & I would never think omething like this will happen but unfortunately that's how I am too. Maybe she has some resentment towards you or maybe she gets sad because you go away. Go have dinner with her & let her know how you feel. Tell her how you don't like the way she reacts & tell her it's either you change or I leave. No one can live in a marriage like that. But make sure you see your flaws too! Because maybe there's something you're leaving out in the picture. Best wishes.

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  • auzzyss

    Hi guys thanks for the comments.. She knows I'm not cheating and would never do that to her.. Yes I treat her like a queen.. I mean who wouldn't want to treat the girl of their life like that.. her past boyfriends treated her like shit and one has put her in hospital numerous times he would have killed her if the cops had not intervened at the right time.. She hates violence and doesn't put up with anyone treating her like shit anymore.. I just don't know what to do?? I've become a father figure to the kids which makes it really hard..

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  • ImMe

    Is its possible she thinks you are cheating?

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  • Luckeas

    Hmm she's probably having trouble copping with the fact that you aren't with her often. If that's the case, try talking to her. Make her express her feelings. If she's like this normally and if she's always like this, I would watch out. Being in a bad relationship is never worth it. Do what you must. :D Good luck

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