Is it normal for a mom to touch her daughter like this?
My mom used to touch me, her daughter, a lot, even though I showed obvious signs of discomfort with her touches...
She would always be stroking my legs or arms whenever she was alone with me in my room. As I mentioned, she kept doing it even though I seemed really uncomfortable with it. She'd get angry if I tried to stop her.
My mom even kissed me on the lips once. At the time, we were both in an elevator, with no one else, when she suddenly kissed my lips. She said 'it's okay, since we're both girls' and had this serious look on her face.
Then she acted like nothing happened once we were out of the elevator, never kissed me again, and never mentioned this incident ever again. (Just remembering this memory is giving me the creeps.)
In addition to the kiss incident, she also spooned me once...while I was on my bed. She had this iron grip on me, so I couldn't get up. So we stayed in that position for a while. My body was extremely tense the whole time. She refused to stop touching me. She backed off after an overly long 10 minutes.
She also never touched me if someone else was near us.
She started touching me like this when I was in elementary school, and stopped when I started middle school.
Even though she's stopped, I freeze up and get irritable if she's near me. I feel like running away from her whenever she's around.
So many years have passed, but I'm still wondering if that was just normal mother-daughter skinship. I don't know if I'm overreacting or not. Do mothers normally touch their daughters like this?