Is it normal for a mom to overshare her sex life with her daughter?

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This has been going on since a while, and dear oh dear do I feel uncomfortable with it!

I have asked her nicely to stop sharing any sexual stories involving herself (more than once) , but she reacts so personally everytime I do so: as if it were normal for a mom to talk about her sex life to her child.

So I'm asking, is it normal for a parent to overshare sex details with their child?

The problem is, this digs deeper. I have actually SEEN my mom have sex with someone else than my father (they are still married, and I've kept the secret all these years for her sake, because I'm not an inconsiderate b*tch who thinks she should get involved in other people's issues), more than once, and it traumatised me.

What I think happens is that when she talks to me about her grinding or threesome or whatever then it triggers some kind of reminescence, the traumatic scenes she has made me endure, and all this makes me feel uneasy. (I am over it though, it's just that I don't LIKE thinking about it again, because I'm actually trying to forget about it all but she keeps shoving the story up my face unconsciously every now and then!)

I haven't actually told her this was linked, hoping she would figure it out by herself... seems like she hasn't.

So what do I do?

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  • dom180
    11 years ago | pl

    Stop telling her nicely, try telling her not nicely. Get angry at her, let her take it personally. Then she might realise you're serious.

    (As a side-note, if I were you I'd tell you dad about your mum having sex with other people. I think he has a right to know, but you might not agree. Why are you protecting her? What about his feelings, what about his right to know what is happening in his marriage? It isn't right to keep him in the dark when your mum is the one in the wrong.)

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    • Lynxikat
      11 years ago

      This fifty million times.

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  • MotherFromHell
    11 years ago

    Tell her if she doesn't want your dad finding out about the affair she should start keeping her stories to herself or you will tell

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    • MissyLeyneous
      11 years ago

      Fuck no, that's blackmail. Use only as a VERY LAST resort.

      If one of my parents even tried to go there I'd stick my fingers in my ears and sing LALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALALAL

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      • Ipooprainbows
        11 years ago

        same!

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  • Ipooprainbows
    11 years ago

    I said yes to it is normal because I think it is to a certain extent...but then there is a line where enough is enough. Like it would be alright if she explained how many men she has slept with or how many boyfriends she has had in her life but not the detail part which seems like your case. And dear anon person, you are not over it otherwise you would be able to hear her talk about her sex experiences without feeling uncomfortable. BUT this is totally normal to feel this way, as I would too!! So just simply tell her how it makes you feel when she goes on about her "personal" stuff so that she knows you don't like it and hopefully she will respect your decision and stop as it is very inappropriate and scarring indeed. sorry you had to see that.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    Your mom is very close to you, consider yourself lucky you have such a close relationship with your mom

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  • iheartu2013
    10 years ago

    My mom does the same thing. I have gotten to the point that when she starts I just leave. She is starting to get the point!

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Your mom sounds really creepy. When she starts to talk about her sex life and cheating on your dad say to her, "I'm going to throw up." Don't worry about her feelings. She obviously doesn't respect your feelings. Just try to get out on your own as soon as possible. Your mom has serious boundary issues and sounds like a sex addict. What she's doing is engaging in verbal exhibition when she inflicts herself on you. Quite often people share weird, perverted, immoral, private details about their personal lives in an attempt to convince themselves that their behavior is normal and acceptable. Her over sharing with you about her adulterous escapades is a form of verbal abuse and violation. You deserve better!

    Check out the twelve step program CoDependents Anonymous it can really help http://www.coda.org/

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  • Usmcxo3
    11 years ago

    My mom does the same thing and I hate it too

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  • cupcake_wants
    11 years ago

    How old are you ?

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  • hairyfairy
    11 years ago

    My mother once told me that my dad said that she was frigid, & it made me feel really uncomfortable. It`s not appropriate to discuss what`s said & done in the bedroom with children, no matter how old they are.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    I've heard of this relationship before, but I only know of one person who has this, so I don't know if it is normal.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    That doesn't sound like normal mother-daughter discussion to me, no. Not normal.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Leave her behind, and be your own person without her

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