Is it normal for a mom to call her 23 year old son "baby"?

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So I've been dating this guy for almost 6 months, and everything is going great so far except for one thing, his mother. This woman has lived with her parents her whole life and never held a job. She's lived off the men she was intimate with and never provided for herself. She never took care of her children and now as they're older she's created a fantasy world where she was the best mother in the world. My boyfriend now pays her bills and does everything she wants but now I'm starting to notice things. Instead of going out and meeting new people she spends every minute possible with my boyfriend. We never go anywhere alone and when we do she always calls him. She constantly calls him baby, dear, and honey. She insists on sitting beside him when he drives I always have to sit in the back seat. And I've started noticing she always tries to walk beside him and try to touch him. I've started having very disturbing nightmares about what's going on and she now says that if he and I move out that she's moving in with us. I'm starting to have terrible thoughts and hopes that she'll soon kick the bucket and stay dead. I'm no idiot I am a mother myself and know the bond between a mother and a son but this is too far from normal. Especially since he despises his mother and tells her so on a regular basis. He tells her to stop but she does it anyway. Any advice or imput would be nice. Please help what should I do, I love him and can see us in a long-term relationship but just him not including his mother!!!

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  • cutie_poo
    7 years ago

    It's completely normal for a mother to call her son "baby", "dear" and "honey" and touch him (god forbid a mother touch her child) without being attracted to him. It's not normal for her to want to move in with you guys, nor is it normal for him to tell her he despises her on a regular basis. They need to sort out their relationship and she needs to sort out her life.

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  • SirChazwick
    7 years ago

    Wow. Your life sounds terrible.

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    • Kelcci94
      7 years ago

      I realize things could be a lot worse, but I'm just at a loss and it's effecting my relationship and am look for advice or imput.

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  • KacyWatson
    3 years ago

    Normal

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    RUN!

    I dunno, maybe you ought not to run just yet, but I'd have my ASICS laced up just case if I were you. I'm not trying to be mean, but she sounds like a stupid cunt!

    It's probably not the best thing to wish she'd drop dead, but I can totally understand why you'd feel that way.

    Don't give him any crazy "it's her or me ultimatums", but do make it crystal clear that you do not want to live with his mother under any circumstances. I would also tell him that you're not cool with this bulls hit of being forced to ride in the back seat. Don't take this man very seriously until he can move out of his mommy's house and live alone on his own.

    ...on second thought, maybe just run away from this situation.

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    • Kelcci94
      7 years ago

      I get what you're saying and appreciate the feed back, I totally agree that any ultimatums would blow up in my face. And as of right now he's living with his grandparents because of their failing health and to help manage their trucking business. His mother lives with her parents which is why we're all stuck together. I'm just in fear that she's trying to replace any romantic males in her life with her son. He had respect for her as his mother but he's a people pleaser and wants to make everyone happy and apparently he's had several relationships end because of his mother.

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