Is it normal for a man to want to adopt her wife's last name proudly ?

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I deeply believe and I know it is true, women and men are equal beings.

My lady is not my property but my life companion and that important and necessary 1/2 of my life Were it not the case couples split.

So I think it is unfair as a society to expect a woman to adopt the husband's last name and not the other way around.

The other way around is seen as something strange or extraordinary.

It should not be the case. In fact, the last name decided for the family should be the last name also used for the kids. If the family's last name is the wife's, so will the first last name for the kids.

I feel proud and happy to use and adopt my lady's last name.

Why is it that this society only allows this practice as a freak thing rather than promoting and favoring this practice ?

After all, it is the female the family creator, who bears children and literally owns the family. Technically she gets a husband who helps her raise the family.

Not the other way around.

Yes. Normal and as a man it is what I would like to do. 8
No. Not normal and as a man refuse to do it 7
Yes, normal and as a female I want it done 5
No, not normal and as a female would not want it done 1
Not normal but think it is Fair 14
Not normal and I think it is not fair 0
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  • FeralDefiance
    7 years ago

    It's a change to an ancient social custom, so of course it seems weird. But go for it, if that's what feels right for you.

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  • charli.m
    7 years ago

    Lots of people adopt both names. It's not a huge deal. Do what you want.

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  • WolfDog
    7 years ago

    Me and my GF had a discussion about that. She felt honoured to take my last name, I felt like if she did that I would feel like I own her. We had a slight disagreement and I suggested a mix of last names. Now we both will have a last name that's a blend.

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  • PoisonedRat
    7 years ago

    That's so awesome honestly. Please do it! I wanted to take my gf's last name if we got married but when I told her, she said that she really likes my last name and said it sounds good with her first name. She really likes illiteration and her initials would be S.S. so honestly I don't blame her lol.

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    • masiste
      7 years ago

      Yes. I agree totally with your approach.

      It should be a decision to be arrived at by the couple.

      It should not be a society imposition Although I think if there were a small bias, it should lean on the female side. Her last name should prevail unless both decide not.

      She is the one that gives birth. She is the frame for the home. And, let's face it, kids could do away with the father, but a mother is irreplaceable

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  • arthurtheaardvark99
    7 years ago

    Lots of women keep their last name after getting married, although they usually put their husband's last name right after their own. Technically it wouldn't matter unless they have kids then the question is what last name are the kids going to use and that is usually the man's last name, even though I agree that there is really no reason for it to be that way. Tradition I guess.

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  • KekReptilian
    7 years ago

    Only if "he" is a mangina.

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    I don't know, maybe ask the past 10,000 years of gendered human history and gender roles existent within every species on earth.
    Just kidding, make your name whatever no one cares, if they do fuck them.
    Also you referred to yourself as 'her'

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  • CorruptedSoul
    7 years ago

    If she has a kick ass last name then sure why not

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    Although it's been steadily shifting, america is a patriarchal society that's why women adopt their husband's last names, it may not be the case in matriarchal societies.

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