Is it normal for a man to tell the woman he loves she is too fat?

Wow he should be more positive and try working out with you. He sounds like a real piece of shit. You should leave him. Women are all different shapes and sizes, and that's a beautiful thing. What if you told him he needs to be muscular or grow a bigger dick? Tell him that and then leave his ass.

Wow what an asshole, he's not going to like you when you get older and you change more. People change, he sounds shallow.

Yeah.. He's a prick.
Don't waste your time, and a size 16?
That's pretty big girl, maybe you should consider loosing weight. For yourself, not for him.

He's an asshole that must be said.

But did the weight gain occur since the proposal, or since the start of the relationship.

Theres nothing thats gonna cause a second thought than the woman he loves suddenly stop caring about her weight and piling on the pounds because shes snagged a hubby(Not saying thats the case here, but i know someone who went from 50kgs to 75kg within about 6 months of getting married,

dump him. in his defense you got heavier

Run away, this guy isn't worth your time. Find someone who actually loves you.

Leave him.

Dont stay wth him.

yeah, thats pretty harsh. But men like attractive thin women, if you want to keep him or any man you should take pride in your appearance. I had a similar relationship, my ex told me pretty much the same things, and i was a size 12 when we were together, this was a few months ago....my ex was a complete asshole, we broke up and i lost so much weight, now i'm down to a USA size 0. I get so many compliments from my male friends now and i meet so many guys. Seriously, don't think men are going to like u just for your personality..they're just not like that...get rid of him...find someone better.

What ever happened with this relationship??

While his reasoning was certainly cold and rude, there is a needle of "right" within the haystack of "wrong" and that's this: I would not want to be with someone who is gaining a lot of weight because I would not want to be with someone who doesn't respect her own body enough to maintain a healthy weight.

Lose the weight so you don't end up dead before you're 50. And lose the guy too.

What a douche

Its not about weight its about your personality and love for eachother ?
What a twat, if i was you i would leave him

The one time i told a girl she was geting fat i didnt love her anymore. But I wasn't talking like this. Just said hun you took 10 pounds. But look, this guy just doesn't love you. Don't let him leave you, YOU leave him. He'll come back at you crying because he's like a 10 years old, then you tell him to get loss. Good luck with that prick.

that is rude. I would leave my bf if he said that to me, fortunatly when gained weight he said I lke chubby women.

Anyways he is meant to love you inside more than out, he needs to appreciate you and it sounds like he s trying to control you, starting with weight. Stand up to him and see what happens, then if t's nthe same just leave

if you were a lot larger and he was saying this for your health then i would understand and you probably should make the effort to be healthier but because you have only gone up one dress size and he is acting like that.... well.... do you want to spend the rest of your life getting put down by the person who is supposed to love you and respect you and worship the ground your walk on? but for him to change the way he sees you so quickly, i think there is something suspicious going on with him.

well girl, ive learned eventually a man will get sick of you no matter what. even if you did lose the weight (which is for all the wrong reasons)....he will find something else he doesnt like about you and tell you to change that too. our bodies can change, people dont. he will always be a PRICK...you will always be a sweetheart...eff his bitchassness

He sounds like an ass! You should lose weight for you nobody else. A size 16 and a size 12 are different put them against eachother you will see! Each size can be 5 to 8 lbs. Take of you

seriously leave him. what happen if one day u grows old and he got more excuses to leave u just because ur appearance change?

A size 16 is not unattractive, and anyway it does not matter. If he loved you he would never say anything like that to you. If it were me I would have punched him in the face and left right then. Don't let anyone talk to you like that and definitely don't Marry anyone who does not love you for who you are.

Let him leave uu don't change for anyone but yourself! Find someone that loves you for who I are.

Get the fat off. It will kill you. I agree with him. He should leave you. Why should he marry someone that will eat herself into oblivion and thinks it's OK.

Honey, if your man isn't going going to tell you, then WHO is? He's probably telling you this because you're his wife and he wants you to look sexy for him or somthing don't fret I'm sure he loves all the same.