Is it normal for a man to show affection to his dog and not his wife?

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My husband shows a lot of affection for his dog. He talks very sweet to the dog like it's a baby. He brings it with him to work every day. He pets and hugs it a lot! The dog even sleeps between us. I can't be intimate with my husband because the dog's between us. When the dog is sleeping at our feet, my husband says, "Come on puppy" and puts it between us. On the rare occation when we are intimate, the dog whines, cries, and scratches at our bedroom door the whole time so I feel like we're rushing to finish so the dog can come in and stop crying. I hate it. I feel like the dog is #1 with my husband and I get the leftovers. We've only been married for 5 months.

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  • hiimacoolcat
    13 years ago

    Maybe the dog is cuter than you?

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    • andromeda1010
      8 years ago

      You should have sex with them , I am pretty sure you will feel good.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    He's using the dog as a barrier because he's unwilling to have an honest conversation with you about what is wrong. Perhaps he's not even admitting it to himself.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    Probably shouldn't have gotten married!

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  • chrissa114
    13 years ago

    I was in the same boat as you. I was married and talked to my husband about how he treated the dog vs me. Now, I love animals and I spoil my dogs like crazy, but my husband, like yours was a bit out of hand.
    My advice is to talk to him, but I did that and it didn't work. I was married 5 years and am now divorced. That was a big issue for me, among other things.
    Good luck to you, sorry I don't have better advice.

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    • 4Realthough
      8 years ago

      Wow. Sad but I'm currently in the same boat. Been married just 3 mons. He didn't show this side when we dated. I've talked to him but even though he's assured me he will make time for US, good old Fido is still #1. He jumps up & down all night to pet the pooch if he''s dreaming or if he makes 1 sound. Not getting sleep or loving. THAT is a HUGE issue for me as well as some other things. He had been divorced when I met him. Different wife, same "doggone" issue.

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  • bubblicious775
    13 years ago

    Get rid of the dog withought him knowing (;
    Be devious!

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    • Blah706blah
      12 years ago

      If my wife got rid of my dog without me knowing, and then I found out I would get rid of her in a heartbeat.
      One reason he might show affection to the dog is that the dog doesn't whine and complain back. Dogs are the best listeners, no matter what you do a dog will always love you,

      Maybe try putting the dog on the other side of him, like the dog, then him then you in the bed,
      Stroke his member and say, you know what has to be done if you want to continue.

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      • lindalovesme
        6 years ago

        also learn from the dog you love so much and try unconditional love with not an ounce of regret. see how you'll become human on an instant

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      • lindalovesme
        6 years ago

        people that expect others to act like dogs (like no complaining or asking questions) don't act like dogs either. they should set the example

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  • TheW1fey
    13 years ago

    Wow... The only thing I can say, is to put your foot down and let the dog knows who's boss, oh and let the furry 4 legged animal know too! ;)

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      LMFAO you win girl.

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  • andromeda1010
    8 years ago

    And by the way dogs are not best listeners since they do not even know what are you talking about.

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  • andromeda1010
    8 years ago

    No it is not normal. It is a brain disorder to love a dog more than a wife.Those men should seek professional help. Those women going thru a problem like this, my advice is the following. "Do not ask your husband to get rid of his dog, you are the one who has to get rid of your husband". Believe me, there are real men out there looking for woman's love. Do not waste your time living with someone that do not appreciate you company. You are living with some kind of canine gay.

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  • Orpiment
    9 years ago

    I think for some people, this is perfectly normal behavior. It's really all about what you can live with or not live with. . My husband is a great person, tells me how much he loves me, but our animals have always gotten more affection than he can show me. He showers them with hugs and kisses every day, but I've been with him 22 years and can never recall him spontaneously giving me a hug or a kiss. I get the perfunctory good night and good bye kiss each day, but nothing more as far as hugs and kisses go. My husband knows and appreciates everything I do for him, but he's not good at displays of affection, And yes, sometimes it bothers me.

    My husband had severe cystic acne when he was a teenager and I know that is part of his issue. He learned to keep people at arms length because of this. So, sometimes there are things in people's pasts either mentally or physically that prevent them from acting as what we would consider normal, especially when it comes to affection and intimacy.

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  • LoverOfWeinerDogs
    13 years ago

    It's not the dog, it's him, and that is emotionally manipulative and borderline abusive. I dated a guy like that once who would do the same thing. It was so hurtful to me. I'm not kidding. You really don't need to put up with this!! There's still a chance to get OUT and find a REAL MAN who will bend over backwards for you, hoping with all hope that he will get to see your knockers! Unlike this guy who doesn't even sound like he's into women!! Dont' feel bad, he's the freak!! Come ON!!!

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  • deviantd
    13 years ago

    this is hard to say, but I almost do the same thing to my boyfriend that your husband does to you, only with us it's the baby.

    different yes, but it's because i'm unhappy with the relationship. I won't get into all the issues we have that we pretend aren't there.

    Note: We pretend they aren't there because I know that if we actually tried to deal with them the relationship would be over one way or another. I'm not sure if he realizes this or not.

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  • Hard_Candy
    13 years ago

    This is a tough one, since you have allowed this to go on it will be harder to change it now. Was your husband doing this before you married? If so, you should have let him know you had an issue with this prior to the marriage. Its your fault if you married him anyway.

    However, if this is new and has started since the marriage, you should tell him this is not what you signed up for when you married him. Put him and the dog on the couch, and tell him when he wants to act like your husband he can come back in the bedroom.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    A man and a dog has a special connection that nothing else can come between

    Hence the phrase "a dog is a mans best friend"

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  • That_Guy_From_The_Party
    13 years ago

    Maybe he just realized that being married is sucks.

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