Is it normal for a man to like to wear women's clothes and high heels

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I'm in my late 40's and enjoy wearing women's clothes. I've been doing it for sometime now. I like short skirts, panties, especially g sting panties and high heels. I'm trying to bring myself to go out dressed up during the daytime hours but it's hard. I'm worried about the ridiculing I'd get the cross eyed looks I'd get and most of all being accepted as a straight man. I've dressed up in my clothes and gone out in the early morning hours and walked around but mostly in non populated places. I know I've been seen be passing cars and so want them to stop and get a good look. That excites me. I'm not sure why dressong up makes me feel relaxed at night but I'm still having trouble doing it in daytime hours. While out of town a few years ago I did dress up a bit and walked around the hotel floor I was staying on. In fact I even say down in a chair near the elevator but no one got off to see me. I want to go into public but hate the negative comments I might get. What am I to do....

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  • Bake34
    8 years ago

    You'll just have to deal with it. I know that sounds harsh but that's the reality we live in, harsh. Some people, like me, will love it and will be proud that you've embraced the real you. Others will ridicule you and snicker behind your back.

    Maybe start with sunglasses and a wide brimmed hat, something to hide under until you feel more comfortable in the daylight. It's all about being secure with who you are and damn the consequences.

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    • Bashful835
      8 years ago

      Thanks for your advice. But I mostly like wearing women's clothing from the waist down not blouses and tops, I almost bought my first dress the other day but I was thinking that's going to far, but the more I think about it I'm saying what the heck why not. I may go back to that store where I say the dress and bye it.

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  • Bikerchiccd
    8 years ago

    I've been wearing women's clothes for the past 45 years , I kept it a secret for all of those years until I met my wife and felt I needed to tell her, she was skeptic at first because she thought I was gay. Then with time and reading up on how many men do this she became more into it , because she saw how relaxed it made me. I work in a very macho feild and there is no way I could express myself or be seen in public , I'm now 60 years old and my wife and I go shopping together, so she can give her advise on what she thinks would look good on me , and she'll even buy me things ( mostly lingere ) when she's out shopping . I can honestly say that our relationship is VERY sound and healthy , if you love wearing women's clothes and are married or in a relationship , I would advise discussing this with your better half , ask her what she thinks about this subject etc. For me I couldn't keep it a secret any longer , I needed to be myself and be free. We do have children but they have no idea , but as long as we're happy we didn't feel they need to know. Regan

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    • Bashful835
      8 years ago

      That's an awesome story, but I by accident left a pair of flats out kinda in the open and my wife say them and said what the heck are those there girly shoes. She said it a couple of times and I just didn't say anything. Now her and I have been together for 30 years and she did see a pair of open toed 2 inch heels of mine that again I left out and said that I left my open toed heels out. That was many years ago but she didn't really make a big deal of it like she did this time. I wish I could tell her. I think she may think there's something wrong with me especially since a long time aquaintece who was born a man but now lives totally as a women. Myself and that person have talked a lot more lately and my wife knows that. I don't think she accepts that friend living as a women and may think she's corrupting me. Maybe someday I can tell her. 1 thing I will say is that currently I'm out of town and have dressed up in skirts and heels and g string panties and walked around the hotel a bit hoping that someone would come out of their room and see but now one has. I even went to differant floors and still no one saw me. I hope some day I can walk freely on public dressed in a skirt and not have the world criticize me. For now I guess I'll just keep doing what I've been doing and build up the confidence to dress as I want b

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  • nancy03062
    8 years ago

    I started off slowly with Slacks, blouse and small heels. Went to our Mall and went into a cosmetic store and asked if they did make overs. They cave me a complete facial with make-up and we talked a lot while they were doing it and gave me the confidence to walk the Mall afterwards got a few strange looks but the more confident I got and went into stores the woman sales clerks were very helpful and did not judge. Now I go out in Skirts, Nylons Heels and dresses all the time and still get a few strange looks as I don't wear a wig so I look like a man in womans clothes hope this helps you

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  • Bashful835
    8 years ago

    That's good I'm glad I didn't upset you. It's just maybe I got a bit defensive. Fact of the matter is I'm really just trying someone to talk to about these private secrets I have. It's actually relieving to de able to talk about this with someone and I think you can related to that.

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  • CDmale4fem
    8 years ago

    Im not married and have no kids that I know of, I dont feel its my place to tell people what to do, I only offer suggestions and constructive criticism. You didnt upset me, I dont get upset over things like a Q&A social site.

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  • CDmale4fem
    8 years ago

    First thing I would say is to be able to be honest with yourself and know for a fact that you do accept and are ok with the person you are. It is your body, your life to live as you feel works best for you. Its not for others to be judgmental about things that has no bearing or in no way has any effect on there life. Im a crossdresser myself, since age 13, Im early 50's now, I have never gone out dressed all in feminine attire. Many many times I go out wearing bra skirt dress or whatever sounds good under my male attire. I used to get nervous worrying about who around me would be staring or "who knew" I was wearing something under. But that was me being paranoid. Dont worry about other people and what they may think or wonder. We are more concerned about it than others around us in society.

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    • Bashful835
      8 years ago

      Another fact is that you say that I need to accept me for who I am when you hide it also. You wear the clothes under your pants. At least I have experimented by going out in the night hours. What about yourself. To me it sounds like your in denial you can't even go out at night without you thinking someone will say bad things. I always wear women's panties under my jeans all the time, and not just bikini. I wear thongs and g stings. Maybe you need to accept yourself before advising someone else on the subject.

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      • CDmale4fem
        8 years ago

        I have accepted myself years ago. I was not trying to be sarcastic or rude. The issues I have in my life that dont really allow me to go out at night or day for that matter, I dont have my drivers license so if I go out driving to get somewhere, I dont really want to get arrested for DWS AND go to jail again while Im not really wanting the local P.D. to AGAIN give me 20 questions about what Im wearing and why. I am not ashamed or embarrassed about who I am although I dont go out of my way to advertise it either. So pull back your sarcasam if and when you dont dont know what , why, why not, or the deep down reasons why people act, do or say or even "give advice or opinion", that from experience they might wish that might have helped if Someone would have said that (or something like it ) to me if the formats and social sites would have existed back in in the early 1970's. So the only place I could talk to another was at night in bed and when I would say my prayers. So finally about 13 years later I was able to talk to my sister.

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        • Bashful835
          8 years ago

          I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset you. Just sounded like you were telling me what to do. I'm ok with who I am also and I don't advertise either, but I have desires to at least try to go into public dress in a skirt and heels just to see what happens. I'm sure I'd get ridiculed but so be it. I'm gonna try when I go away from home for a few days and see what happenes.

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    • Bashful835
      8 years ago

      The fact of the matter is that I have gone out in public at night in quiet areas . Just not in daylight hours. Lately I've gone out near a local mall and walked around in a pair of 6 inch platform heels. To see if I get any looks. I am outside so passing cars may or may not see me. That's a start. Maybe when I'm completely comfortable with that then I can put a skirt on with those heels and see what happens.

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  • yu-gi-ohChampion25
    8 years ago

    maybe if your in disguise, not normal if it arouses you.

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    • Bashful835
      8 years ago

      Tell me why it's wrong if it arouses me

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