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I’m 25 and have been rejected 80 times because I’m socially awkward and don’t know how to improve myself.
I am a woman with aspergers and i've never had failure because i'm socially awkward, strangely. I am very shy due to also having social anxiety though and for some reason that has had positive effect, probably because I hold back so much awkwardness due to my shyness. I am also currently going to therapy for improving my social skills, just for the sake of not being anxious around people anymore. I can recommend that. I have 2 male friends with diagnosed aspergers also, and one with very obvious aspie traits who's had very bad luck with relationships. They're all single even though they're attractive, work out a lot and are nice and friendly on top of that but only one of them actually tries to pursue romantic relationships. From what I can tell the mistake that he makes is he's too eager. When he starts talking to a woman he likes he is quite fast to throw out things like "i'm in love with you" which you can't really do that fast, it seems desperate. Oversharing is another thing, especially if you overshare all of the bad luck you've had with relationships. It makes the person feel sorry for you rather than attracted to you. Us aspies can be pretty blunt (especially those without social anxiety) and that isn't always a good thing. Boundries can be an issue as well, to either be too "on" or too "off" because you don't know where the perfect middleground is and you're afraid to seem either too interested or too disinterested. Those are the best things I can think of that can make it a problem to find a partner. But like I said I really recommend therapy with the intent to improve social skills, or if that's not possible look up CBT-practices online. Don't be desperate because it will shine through. For now i'd suggest taking a break from dating and working on your social skills.