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One of the reasons I wanted to be a girl, is that if I wanted kids, I wanted to be able to birth them. There seems to be a relationship between mother and kid, that goes beyond the father. There always seems to be that special bond within family, and I feel like I want that.
The mother-child bond isn't necessarily any stronger than the father-child bond. The mother-child relationship is blown way out of proportion in the media. The kid doesn't give a crap whose body it was gestated in - if you're a good dad your kid would love you as much as he/she would love a good mum.
I have a bond to my mum and to my dad. Those bonds are different, in the same way that the bonds between myself and each of my friends are different. The two bonds between my mum and my dad are absolutely 100% equal bonds.
It's very normal and very good to want a good relationship with your future kid, but you don't need to be the mother to have that. There's a million and one more important things than whether you're the mum or the dad. Screw being a good mum or a good dad: be a good parent and your kid will love you and have a bond with you.
There is a bond, just having the baby permanently leaves it's mark on your body, mind and to some extent, brain. In a way, the child never leaves you, they will always leave their mark, even if given up for adoption. The physical and chemical bond is tremendous. The emotional bond is unspeakable
However, I'd rather be the guy. In your average family, the majority of the responsibility for baby (51+ percent) naturally falls onto the mother. If she works that's basically like taking three full time jobs (baby, work, housework unless you've found a guy that will do housework ).
Unless you desire to work very very hard and get little rest, then you probably desire the sitcom idealized version of motherhood and so do we all XD
Well you could always turn out to be an awful mother and turn out like that lady who drove the car into a lake. Than claimed it was an "accident". Yes moms have a bond with their children but I cant imagine anyone enjoying child birth.