Is it normal for a male to love anal play and not be gay

Your wife is very close-minded, man. "Gay" means that you are interested romantically and sexually in the same sex, exclusively. So as long as you don't date and sleep with guys and fancy your wife -nothing you'll ever do is gay.

100% not gay.

I know where you are coming from! I love that kind of thing but only from my wife and I have no desire to do any of it with a man and she just thinks I have some undiscovered or un-admitted homosexual tendencies. It does not make you gay it just makes you human and smart enough to understand that you enjoy something despite any social taboo about it.

Furthermore, would it make her a lesbian if she made out with a woman? HELL NO it would make her a bad ass wife! So why does it make you gay if you want HER (a woman) to do something that gives you pleasure?

I'm sorry and I will get off my soap box. And if I could give you one last bit of advise... tell her how you feel. Let her know that you are not attracted to men but that you are secure enough with yourself and your sexuality to realize that you enjoy this from her. Best of luck to you!

It has nothing to do with being gay and anyone who thinks it is or openly says that it is gay, is ignorant and stupid. what we find pleasurable individually will differ and may or may not be everyones cup of tea but that's where it ends. putting or attaching labels or tags to it is a clear admission of ignorance and you should tell her that. that's as bad as ignorant caucasian people believing that fried chicken or watermelon is the mainstay or diet of black people. i love fried chicken watermelon and pasta and burritos and pizza. what does any of that have to do with race. nothing. i have always played with my butt, butthole and prostate. it's fun and exciting and if my mate has a problem with it, she's missing out because she is ignorant. i remember the thrill and pleasure from a rectal thermometer pushed up my rectum. i didn't know it at the time but, it was sexually stimulating. i am not gay or have any attraction to males. there's your answer.

"Pegging" isn't gay.

if your wife thinks that playing with your asshole makes it gay then she must think she's a man.

cos it's only "gay" if you're doing it with your own gender.

still, it's clearly not something she wants to do so... i guess you'll have to play by yourself then.

Its not gay. If thats what you like than do it. Lots of guys do it. I have even caught my boyfriend doing it but not with a dildo. I dont have a part in it but i dont care if he does it. Keep doing what makes you fill good

Idk about dildos but if my bf wanted a prostate massage I'd be down. I've never given the dildo thing for a guy honest thought. It just never occurred to me.