Is it normal for a husband to hide his wallet from his wife?

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My husband works late nights and he hides his wallet from me when he gets home. The reason I know he is hiding it is b/c he used to leave it out and I would sometimes take money for the kids' lunches but lately he has started leaving out a few bucks and his wallet is nowhere to be found. He has accused me of "stealing" from him and the only money I ever took was lunch money and I always told him after I took it. Anyway, we're married - aren't we supposed to share? I don't work outside the home, otherwise I would be paying for the kids' lunches myself. It really bothers me that he thinks he has to hide money from me but when I tell him he just laughs or accuses me of stealing. Is it normal for husbands to hide money from their wives?

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  • joelsmo
    13 years ago

    you broke a trust, kids lunch or not. Everyone should be allowed some type of privacy, you should have at least asked him he probably would have told you to go ahead.

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  • charity
    13 years ago

    I would not appreciate my spouse going through my wallet to take money from me.. If you were in his position you would feel the same way.....

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      no, actually I wouldn't care...he HAS taken money from me before, and I couldn't care less. I leave my purse out all the time, he is welcome to take money if I have it and he needs it. I'm not talking $100 or even $20 ...we're talking $4 here.Seems a lot of people on here have have something to hide or are just extremely protective of their stuff....like spoiled little babies "WAAAA..IT"S MINE!!!" I believe if you're married to someone the money is "ours" not "mine".

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        just because YOU'RE ok with it doesn't mean he has to be.

        For example... I'm OK with my partner using my computer, even my login. He uses it sometimes to print.

        Does this mean I have a right to go an use his whenever I want? Nope. Just because I'm comfortable with it doesn't mean he's obliged to feel the same way.

        Sometimes you need to show respect for your partners belongings.

        I mean sure you're trying to make it sound like he's "hiding" something from you - but he specifically told you it bothered him, and now he has to hide it from you because you refused to respect his wishes.

        You can't play the "he disrespects me!" card, not when you disrespect him.

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      • Shuff
        6 years ago

        I agree with you..it's not normal and to be honest it's deceitful. Marriage is about giving your 100 Percent. If your children need lunch money and he's hiding money..shame on him.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    He's a total fuck nugget.

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  • Shuff
    6 years ago

    People who hide money from their spouse are deceitful ...period.

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  • Shellbell83
    9 years ago

    And where is she supposed to get THEIR children's lunch money from???

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  • rosemayy
    11 years ago

    My dad does the same thing but my mum never took his money

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  • savemefrommyself
    12 years ago

    also why hes shouldve made it clear, hunny please dont ever go threw my wallet i hate it for this reason....but i assume he didnt do that.so let him know....and after that drop it... pick your battles

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    • Shellbell83
      9 years ago

      Please learn to spell -honey, and you threw the trash out and now I'm through with you.

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  • savemefrommyself
    12 years ago

    personally i think ur bith wrong. i woukdnt have just taken money from him as so.eone else said no matter what it was for. but on the other hand id be like wtf? whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine right..its just a balance between respect and the principle of the mattter. what if he had specifically put an amount of money because he needed it before the bank or stores close to get change? u didnt really .NEED to give the kids lunch money u couldve made it for them. because ue a stay at home mom right? why wouldnt u....ive never taken money from my fiances wallet but hes on more than one occasion asked me to get this or that out of it like a card or number other than at i ask him for it.not only is it a trust thing but when u ask a man if he can help u out wit something it makes them feels useful, needed strong. u made him feel used and lied to...so i guess id drop it or bring it up to him...if he doesnt know it bugs u how can he stop? closed.mouths dont get fed, and people dont read minds ...which is

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  • nowimsureimsane
    12 years ago

    Um..well i would do the same.my wallet is mine and i wont leave it out for anyone to go through.the thought of someone 'taking' money or anything out of it makes me cringe.i have nothing to hide just need to have it in a good place.if you need something ask for it.

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  • Musse
    13 years ago

    Your husband is a total guy (and somewhat of a major jerk, no offence) I'm a guy myself, not as old as your husband probably but I'm self aware.
    Most guys are dominant, that's just how it is but if a marriage is like that to this extent, it's not healthy. It creates doubt and a severe lack of trust and discomfort. I don't know about you personally but generally housewives who don't work have a "submissive role" in society and don't be shocked if your husband is abusing it. If he is avoiding the issue and making it on his own terms, I'm sorry to say but he has some serious issues. A modern man should and without hesitation talk it out with his spouse but yes, you might need to remind him that he's not alone and that there are two people in a unity. My advice to you is to take this as a wake-up Call and treat it as such. If the case is that he is hiding something from you, which is possible, than that should come out. Ask him and clear it. Marriage is important but don't be afraid to question.
    I'm sorry if one might be afraid of conflict for future reasons but hey, who are we not to respond to what life presents. We're here to learn and one might never move forward if caged.
    In the future you should know that he is doing this because he "can" and therefor it is your fault. You should not have let it happen and whatever emotions you get aren't valid and in fact useless. Get to know the truth of the situation so that you can calm down. You know what is right in your heart.
    Stay healthy in mind.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    He's hiding something. Anytime a person keeps a wallet, or cellphone or computer/history hidden means they are hiding something.

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    • Shellbell83
      9 years ago

      Hidden does actually mean HIDING. ITS THE NATURE of hide! And I hate it. You don't hide something that you are proud of or aren't ashamed of. Period.

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  • Ramit10
    13 years ago

    What she didnt say is she took 300.00 for "the kids lunches"

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Read: $4, Dipshit!

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