Is it normal for a husband to crossdress and advertise for sex online

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I was devastated to find out my husband after six years of marriage was a crossdresser and advertising for sex online with men. I love a manly man and when I saw him dressed in lingerie I almost threw up, 6'5 300 pounds and was so ugly as a woman. He says he feels as if he is a woman in a mans body. It has destroyed our relationship, I feel as if he deceived me into marrying him and I feel cheated out of a normal marriage because belive me I would never have chosen to marry him if I had known. We are roommates now and there has been no sex now for 8 years. I can't stand the thought of having sex with him now, a total turn off. I belive his sexual choices were his to make but he should have been honest with me before the I dO'S.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    The only thing you two can do now is cut your losses and get a divorce.

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    • babara7246
      9 years ago

      Yes you are right , I want a normal man not this confused female want to be. I am calling my lawyer tomorrow, this is the first time I have spoken of what happen, this is not something you can tell your friends or family.

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      • CDmale4fem
        7 years ago

        Well it seems for some reason he didn't feel that he could open up and be 100% honest with you in the beginning. I am also a cross dresser and with all the societal pressures to be " fuckin perfect" and have no kinks, quirks, fetish, and if we take a chance and bare our soul we either get laughed at and ridiculed or she can be a decent person and talk to him about it and try and come to a mutual agreement but if your going to be a narrow-minded uncaring, insensitive, judgmental Holyier than thou, moral majority sympathize r. Your implying you have no faults. If you can't try and look past it. So HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU WORN A SHIRT OR SOMETHING of his that you felt kinda naughty sexy wearing it ? But in the end in my opinion, your not worth the whiskey.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    You have been married to him for six years and have had zero sex for the last eight years?

    No wonder he cross dresses.

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    You have every right to feel this way. The bastard, I would be disgusted too!

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  • snowyshadow
    9 years ago

    You should watch orange is the new black. A situation just like this comes up. He lied and hid a huge part of himself from you. It's not fair to you at all.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    C'est la vie.

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    • kelili
      9 years ago

      Mais pas une vie marrante, ça c'est sûre!

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        That's what I get for being cliché.

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  • curtisn
    9 years ago

    I understand you are hurt and angry, along with feeling betrayed. I'm sure this has not been easy for him either. Hopefully you can let go of some of the anger and eventually like him for the person he truly is. You still share children and this is their father. To show them unconditional love would be an amazing gift. I'm sure you're not there yet but maybe someday you will be. Good luck with your journey.

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  • babara7246
    9 years ago

    I know, I talked to a lawyer today and filed for divorce. I will be so glad when it is over and I now have to tell my twins. Just not the gory details, that is for him to tell not me. I have no plans to ever marry again, this has really taught me a lesson.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    I'm just going to say it. I'm sure those men he was seeing aren't cleanest men on the planet. You should defiantly NOT mix fluids with this guy any longer.

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    It's not okay for him to stay from your marriage unless you have an open marriage. Sorry to hear that he is doing this to you.

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  • babara7246
    9 years ago

    We have been married 14 years and you can have him because I sure don't. I would never risk my health and he told me he was crossdressing and sleeping with men for about 30 years. He knew and chose to not tell me because I would have RUN!

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    • CDmale4fem
      7 years ago

      So if he would have told you up front about crossdressing you would have left ? Just maybe he had a love deep enough for you (only God knows why) that he wanted you for his wife. But knowing or having a good feeling if he opened up to you that you would leave. He was scared to lose you. Even tho, I'm not saying he was right to not tell you, but if you may have been more open-minded, less judgmental of others, and get the silver spoon outta your ass and your snooty nose outta the clouds he might have felt at ease enough to try and tell you. ALSO FOR YOU SAYING "I CAN'T WAIT TO TELL THE TWINS" . YOU ARE FROTHING AT THE BIT TO TURN THE KIDS AGAINST HIM. TJAT SHOULD BE THEIR CHOICE WHEN THEY ARE OF AGE TO DECIDE AND WHEN HE TELLS THEM OF CROSSDRESSING. YOU SOUND JUST LIKE MY MOM, KNIEVING, MANIPULATIVE, DECIETFUL, I HAVENT TALKED TO HER IN OVER 10 YEARS. I'm glad your not my mom.

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