Is it normal for a husband to be so selfish
Ok, so I'm trying to decide how to take my husbands attitude towards me & the fact that he RARELY pays any attention to me. 1st off he is OBSESSED with softball, I mean if he's not playing it, he's logged into special websites so he can talk to other softball players or he's texting and/or on the phone about it & I am completely serious when I say everyday, more times than I care to count. If by some miracle he's not doing those things he is on facebook, its utterly ridiculous. We both work & I'm the one who provides for the family, he'll throw some cash in here & there but I couldn't even tell you how much he makes! He doesn't want to have to hand over his paycheck like he had to in his prior marriage, which is fine that's not what I'm askin for , just a little more financial help would be nice. As for the attention part, I have basically become a social hermit b/c whenever I did go out, which was always with my sister, he would get beyond mad, like not talk to me for days, so I stopped b/c it wasn't worth the conflict. But now, I'm to the point I'm fed up. He goes out of time for 9 mos out of the yr, every weekend & I never complain or say a word, I just let him do it, but I don't get the same respect if I want to go grab a drink or even go shopping with family or friends. I do believe its a control issue, but I don't know how to break it. I was thinking about just starting to treat him the same way he does me, basically acting like he doesn't exist, but I know thats just being childish. I know I deserve better than this. I'd like to think I'm attractive & that he should be lucky to have me (since his softball buddies tell him that freqently) but he sure as hell doesn't make me feel like it. Any suggestions?