Is it normal for a guy to want this.

I so agree! Sex is only morally wrong if you want it to be. Sex before marriage is not a big deal. Find a guy similar to you.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. Sex can play a huge role in a relationship. I heard a quote somewhere that has always make sense, when the sex is fine it makes up about 20% of a relationship, when the sex is bad it's 80%. What this means to me is if we are being satisfied then all is well and we can focus on the more important things but when one of our basic needs are being ignored it consumes the other parts of the relationship that once were good. For some people it might be acceptable, for me however I would not want to marry someone unless I was sure about wanting to spend the rest of my life with them and I simply could not do that having no idea if we were compatible sexually. While waiting till marriage is a romantic notion I think it would lead more people down the isle who weren't exactly ready while also leading them with someone they might not want to be with in the first place as they don't know them as well as they can.

People are sleeping with more people than ever before. People are more "sexually tuned in" than ever before. There is more information available than ever before. Divorce is now over 50%. More than ever before.

The whole drive the car before you buy it crap is a frickin joke! What a lie people tell themselves. Pre-marital sex kills over 30,000 Americans per year. Look it up. Over 1.9 million NEW cases of STD's each year and growing. By all means get out there and start test driving! LOL!!! Just remember that when one of those test drives leaves a permanent stain on the drivers seat, aint no one gonna buy that car!

I for one applaud the man for his convitions. Obviously having multiple partners in the past didn't cut it for him and he has taken another tack. You don't want to be a pert of it, then move on and leave him be for someone who will appreciate his sacrifice.

The whole screw em all till you find your true love.......it's a damn lie!

Do you suck him off? If he doesn't enjoy this, then he has a man sucking him off. There is only one reason and that is it. He's a homo. actually men in general suck cocks better than women.

gaydar going off

If you don't share his religious views then things could get seriously complicated later on. Make sure you seriously consider that.

Personally I don't care about looks all I care about is how he treats me it's a good thing he's become a christian purity is something you should keep until your married and if that's what he wants then it's good he's helping guide you on the right path and I would follow it too. There's always gonna be arguments but you can eventually get over them. No matter what I say follow what he's leading you to.

You're right, Vienna.

Honestly I don't think sex before marrige is wrong, but what I do think is wrong is dumping someone who wants to wait until after marrige for sex is shallow. If you love him you would wait. A relationship shouldn't be driven by sex, if you honestly loved him you shouldn't be worried about if he's good in bed or if you guys have chemestry. If you loved him you would except his beliefs and not agrue with him over it. He wants a relationship not based on sex, and you do. I think you guys should find other people if you can't excpet him for his beliefs.

Lol thanks inuasha or whatever. When did I get defensive? I simply said I am not a whore. And wanting to have sex with him before we get married does not make me a bad person so don't make me out to be

He won't even talk to me now lol but thanks for the advice

i had a similar situtation, except my boyfriend and i had allready started sleeping togetgher when i decided we had to stop because it was out of wedlock . trust me , once youve lived with sex in yoir life its nearly impossible to stop. and its not like he lacks drive. i dont think he'll be able to wait untill mariage.

I agree gee-raff

Religion makes things too complicated

Thanks for the advice Diva!! Sounds like you got your head on straight

If he doesn't agree, find a new guy. And if you truly love him, wait for him.

Sex is not immoral. Immorality is perspective only. Morals are fantastic, they keep the world in balance. However, when something is not immoral it can not be bad. Maybe some of you should get laid, y'all are so uptight. Tell him how you feel. Honesty is the best policy.

There is nothing wrong with having moral standards. People like you are ruining the world.

Actually I do love him and I really don't need anyones advice that is anti sex lol I have already established that I don't feel the same way. Weren't you reading?. I believe that it is a HUGE part of a
Marriage. That is my belief and there is no changing it. If we have no sexual chemistry what is the point? Don't tell me who I do and no not love, cause I am pretty sure I know a little more about myself and MY feelings then you do.

"I need to experience sex with him before we get married because I don't want it to end in us cheating on eachother, us not enjoying sex, us not having sex or a divorce."

To say you love this man and then post a comment like that is very contradictory. If you truly love him, and he you, there should be no problem in the future, even if 'that' part of your love life isn't perfect. Before you consider marriage you might want to learn what true love really means. Personally I don't think you really love him, if you did then you would respect and trust him.

Diva. We are so similiar except for this religion. We have the same personalities and get along soo well but I can't bring myself to share his beliefs though I fully support his.

Gregwith4.....can you tell me when I said screw them all until I find true love?? I am serious about this guy, I love him with all of my heart and it killed me when I ended it. I am still not the same. I need to experience sex with him before we get married because I don't want it to end in us cheating on eachother, us not enjoying sex, us not having sex or a divorce.....thoses are our options. And none of those sit well with me. Don't make assumptions that I am some whore who needs to sleep with every boyfriend and every guy I meet. I do have morals

No you are not being unreasonable. You both have different views on this and if you stayed with him then it would have only caused trouble when it came to religious decisions. You made the right choice to end it now.

It sounds like you may be headed down different paths. Having sex won't put you on the same one.

"pre marital sex kills 30000 Americans every year"- aren't statistics fun! Correlation does not imply causality.

I agree with you completally. Thank you.