Is it normal for a guy to not want a relationship

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Ill try to make this short:(btw Im a 20 yr old college student) So I was hanging out with this guy for a few weeks and we didnt get kiss until the 3rd time we hung out and he took me out to lunch and of course i started to develop feelings for him. I confronted him and asked him if he saw us having any type of future and he responded with "ya a sexual one. Im not looking for a relationship because after college Im going to be away (in the army). So Ive just been enjoying having fun with girls, no strings attached." Afterwards I stupidly agreed to hookup with him (no sex just making out with very little on). Im probably never going to see/hear from him again unless he calls up for a booty call over the summer or next semester. The thing is, this has happened to me quite a few times and im sick of it. Im not looking for a fuck buddy and I dont understand why guys see me that way. So here are my two questions: 1) is it normal for guys to Not want a relationship or is it just an excuse becauase they dont want to hurt your feelings? 2) Is it normal to feel like a total whore after hooking up with a guy after he told me he just saw me as a FWB or friend? At this point Ive just given up on any future relationships with guys.

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    Drop the dog!! He cares more about getting his thrills than you as a person... and why is he going into the army if he's already in college? sounds suspicious to me. He probably already has multiple relationships going on and that's his army.

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    Oky 2 part answer. #1 not all guys are like that, in fact if u what a dude who is more geared towards maintaining a serious relationship may i suggust changing the "pool" of guys u look at. like for example try nerdier guys, we need love too.

    #2 i did the fuck buddy thing (how i lost my virginity) and is sucked. i still feel cheap and dirty about it. and im a fukin man damnit (theorticlly that is) so my final vertict is normal and dont give up on love

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  • InsertBlankHere
    12 years ago

    "I stupidly agreed to hookup with him"

    Hello, McFly. You've answered your own question. He gave you the facts. Why would he want to get into a relationship just to break it off further down the road? Stay away from the military types. Those relationships are impossible to maintain. I know, because I was in the military, and I was always hearing stories about problems other people were having in maintaining affection and trust when they're constantly separated.

    He's the smart one; he recognizes that trying to get into a relationship before being deployed is a stupid move.

    He gave you the facts, goddamnit. Don't pursue a fish that doesn't want to be caught.

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    Nice to know you "of course" developed feelings for him after he bought you lunch.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    At least he was upfront about it. Yes it is normal for CERTAIN guys to only want sex. Other guys want relationships but might still take sex even if it's all they see in the relationship. And then there are guys who will only take a relationship.

    Much like women really. The percentage might vary but still much the same.

    To each their own

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