Is it normal for a guy to love his best friend?

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I have this one friend that I'm really close with. We always have a great time when we hang out. He's kind of like an older brother to me, but I've shared things with him I could never talk to a brother about. He doesn't really say it, but I can tell from the way he acts he cares about me and just doesn't know how to say it.

I know for sure that I love him, but it's weird. I care about him a lot, but I don't feel anything sexual towards him at all. It makes things awkard sometimes because he'll try to make a gay joke to creep me out, but it doesn't work or I joke back and say something worse, then he feels really awkard (he's extremely homophobic, but that's another issue). The idea of him having a girlfriend doesn't bother me at all, so long as she doesn't break his heart. I almost told him I loved him the last time he was over, but I thought that might be too much since people automatically associate love with sex.

I'm so confused. I've never had a friend that I actually cared about this much. Unlike a lot of other friends I've had, I actually miss being around him. In the back of my mind I'm usually always wondering what he's up to or how he's doing. I also feel completely comfortable around him, to the point that most things typically "gay" don't bother me at all, like breaking the macho stereotype and being honest with him. I also want the best for him, to the point that I'd give up just about anything to see him happy.

Is this kind of friendship normal?

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  • iintolovethissite
    12 years ago

    good on you m8 its normal its not gay.
    hes a good freind to you obviously, and you respect him its freindship m8

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  • Helpmeout25
    12 years ago

    Yes dude, friends last forever. It's normal foe you to admire him and not feel sexually attracted to him. There is also such things as a bromance and a man crush. Look up the rules for a bromance, pretty funny. Thank God you have a friend like this. Most people go their whole lives and never have a feiend like you have.

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  • Capsule
    12 years ago

    You are definitely gay if you have a sexual attraction to him.

    Intimacy and companionship is normal. I mean, it would be seriously depressing if a guy cannot have a true friend with his own gender when girls can.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    You love him, what's wrong with that?

    Just cherish the relationship wherever it takes you .

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  • dbwm
    13 years ago

    Normal, and "Itduz" will never have a friendship like that. He is an asshole.

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  • help_is_here
    13 years ago

    Itduz is a major asshole. That's all I got out of this post.

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  • Bartholomew
    13 years ago

    It's a platonic relationship and it's normal. You see him like a brother. Why, if you indeed do, do you feel compelled to tell him you love him (Not to say there's anything wrong with wanting to express your love in words to someone you care for)? You stated you knew he cares for you so I don't think you're looking for reciprocation or anything like that. I just feel like if you can answer that question it'll help yourself out quite a bit.
    He's your best friend so you should know better then any of us what he's comfortable with.

    Trust your own judgment. Ultimately, you should always make sure you value the friendship and are thankful for it. Not everyone experiences this sort of bond with someone outside of a partner or family - some not even that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Thanks for the comment. I didn't know what that meant, so I did a Google search and it sounds about right. I did almost tell him I loved him once, but it wasn't the right time (I had used a poor choice of words earlier and I could tell by the way he was acting he was afraid I was gay). Unless things get really awkard the next time we hang out I'll probably let it slip.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I dont know is loving your best friend normal? hmm I dont know lets ask the other million users who have submitted the exact same story. Of course its normal stop looking for your 15 minutes of pointless story telling.

    No matter how many times you try to delete my comment I will just keep reposting it. If you dont like comments in the comment section then dont submit the story.

    You are a moron if you dont think about 50% of the users on here think differently from what I have just said even if they didnt see this commen tthey would most likely think the same.

    Once again im going to say this "You delete I repost".

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I apologize for deleting your post earlier. I was in a really crappy mood and really didn't feel like explaining myself, but it was still uncalled for. For what it's worth, I am sorry.

      Believe it or not, I do read through the stories on this site before posting. I really don't want the attention in the first place, I'm just terrible with people and was hoping someone might have some advice since I'm not getting anywhere by myself. This site is a sort of last resort for me when I need advice, not the first place I run to as an attempt to whore attention.

      All of the similar stories I saw were "I'm a boy and like a girl" or "I'm a girl and like this boy". My friend and I are the same gender so none of those helped. The stories that did match rarely ever had any comments, and when they did, they weren't helpful comments, just people trolling and/or making a fool of themselves. So after not seeing anything that helped I wrote this up.

      And to answer your question at the beginning of your post: I don't know, that's why I posted the story. Not all of us are the trusting, outgoing kind of people that have tons of friends or have had any close friendships whatsoever before.

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