Is it normal for a guy to just be friends with a girl?

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Me and my boyfriend aren't doing well. He went on meds (antidepressants) and he changed. When I first met him he was so happy healthy etc then he got depression acted a quarter like himself finally went on meds and he acts nothing like himself..he argues with me when he never did before. He had crying spells at work and I have to pick him up (he's a nurse at a hospital) and he doesn't communicate as well. I'm so hurt by all of this. I ask him to switch meds or ask his doctor why he's acting so oddly he gets mad.

Now he withdrew from me suddenly and so I left him have space thinking he will come back it's been 6 weeks now no message. Now I see him tagged on Facebook by some girl like every weekend. Went here, went there etc. She came out of nowhere. Most of his friends are girls but I'm worried now that he's lost his mind. Shes trash looking, very obese (he's extremely fit) and looks like a man no joke she also works as a prison guard and her father is a millionaire so I see photos of her own house he bought her.

I'm freaking out right now is it normal to hang out with a friend of the opposite gender this much?

Btw he's 25, I'm 25 and we've been together 5 years he was great up until depression hit (runs in the family).

No she's probably his new girl 8
Yes it's normal 7
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  • CozmoWank
    5 years ago

    Let him go. He will be an emotional drain on you.

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  • Alichael
    5 years ago

    Yes, you can be just friends with someone of the opposite sex. Billy Crystal was wrong, the sex part doesn't always get in the way unless both the guy and girl have mutual sexual attraction towards each other. He was saying that the sex part always gets in the way between a man and woman, period (and he later changed it to "unless both the guy and girls are already in committed relationships with someone else", but still never mentioned whether they'd both have mutual sexual attraction towards each other or not).

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    A woman and a man being "just friends" doesn't exist. There is no such thing.

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    • perfectxsilence
      5 years ago

      Lol my best friend is the opposite gender

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        There are feelings involved. They just don't show them. They might not be strong enough for them to do something about it. Ask the male whether he'd have sex with the female friend (demanding an honest response). You'll discover the truth soon.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Nah doubt it but even if he would that's not a relationship. There's gotta be romance and with him, there is zero lol.

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  • paramore93
    5 years ago

    People don't want to hear that they need help. If he's doing better now I'd just move on, it's probably healthier for you in the long run.

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  • jack_shephard
    5 years ago

    Didn't read the whole thing but yes it's normal.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    5 years ago

    So he basically ghosted you six months ago and is building a relationship with someone different. Tell him you're done. There's no point in being with an emotionally unstable person that can't even explain his feelings anyway. I've known people who spent years with someone like that and they went from loving life to being dead inside.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Move on. It sounds toxic anyway. If he is happier with someone else then wish him luck (figuratively) and that's that.

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  • Notderanged
    5 years ago

    Sorry for your loss.

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