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I was having a verbal fight with a "friend" and he ended up punching me in the face, it has left me with mixed feelings.
Under most circumstances I would say its not normal, if a woman make you want to hit her, turn around and walk away, keep your dignity, this woman isn't worth it. But still I'll play the devil's advocate and ask, what did you say to him before he hit you?
When a story starts with "Well we had been drinking and he decided he wanted to go get some drugs so I went with him", there is always a slight chance that things might go wrong. My advice to you is stay away from that guy, get yourself clean and try to befriend better people, otherwise getting punched is not the worst thing that is going to happen to you.
In my opinion, a guy should only hit a girl if she hits him first. You didn't hit him, so he had no right to hit you. If you haven't already ended the friendship, then end it. He's probably an unstable and dangerous person if he throws punches to win an argument.
"In my opinion, a guy should only hit a girl if she hits him first."
This is one of those rare times that I'm taking ItDuz's side here. Why would that not be phrased as "a person should only hit a person"? Yes, the tendency for men to be physically stronger provides an imbalance, but a punch to the nose hurts regardless. How about "punching is bad unless in self-defense".
it's not about chivalry or "the weaker sex" discussion.
I believe that it's wrong to punch someone who is physically weaker than you are, or lacks training.
The reason? I've trained with girls that would smash my face into a pulp in 2 rounds, so if you're that kinda girl -it's totally fine, we fight with my friends all the time.
In any other case your friend needs to have his teeth kicked in by someone.
guy shouldnt get to hit girls and girls shouldnt get to hit guys simpel end off!!
If you get het by a girl, its normal to hit back. under any other circumstance it's not normal.
in any case why should girls get different treatment??
I have relevant confession that might make some people here think a lot less of me. Heck, it makes ME think a lot less of me.
At a party, my girlfriend and I were very drunk. I'd never seen her be violent as a drunk, and we've been drunk together 3 or 4 times before that with no problems. But that night, for whatever reason, she was. She kicked me, slapped me and pulled my hair. She's sort of a sadist (which is more than fine by me), so maybe she thought it was sexual. I'll never know; she was so drunk doesn't remember a moment of it apart from what I did.
I had had less than her, but still too much to act maturely. I pushed her off me hard and into a brick wall, where she hit her head and was pretty badly hurt, a lot worse than she had hurt me. She had headaches for a week afterwards. Even though the logical part of me knows what I did was understandable, not to mention accidental, and she has totally forgiven me, and she hit me hard and first, and we were both drunk, I still feel pretty damn shitty about what I did on a regular basis. I can't help feeling shitty abut it. It makes me wonder if part of me is a bad person after all.
So yeah, something about someone hitting someone stronger than themselves feels inherently wrong. For me, even though I had dozens of perfectly legitimate and logically excuses for what I did, it still felt wrong and continues to feel that way. But, as always, the lines can be blurred. It should be avoided whenever possible (hell, hitting ANYONE ahould be avoided whenever possible), but shouldn't be 100% taboo. Defence should be the only excuse, and even then only reasonable force should be used.
I don't think any less of you:) You acted in self-defense and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing malicious about it especially since you feel guilty. It's good that she forgave you.
That doesn't seem like you intentionally wanted to cause her weeks of pain or discomfort.
It was purely an accident. If she had fallen to the floor and missed the wall, I'm quite sure you wouldn't have continued the insult.
I even think legally speaking there is no assault here, except possibly originally her to you.
its normal for decent folk to feel bad when they hurt someone, even if that person may have provoked them, and especially if it's someone they care about. that's what makes them decent folk. glad she forgave you, and hopefully you can forgive yourself.
I read that story when you uploaded it, and what you done was justified, and it was her fault.
As most people here have said, gender should be fairly irrelevant; a person assaulting another person without a valid reason is in the wrong.
If, however, you made direct threats towards him, his property or somebody he cares about, the situation changes slightly; that in my opinion COULD be a valid reason.
I think we'd need more details on the content of the argument to give you an accurate answer. If it was simply a "you're so annoying!" type argument, then the guy was entirely out of order for losing his temper and being violent. If it was a "I'm going to stab your sister in the fucking vagina! I know where she lives!" type argument, perhaps he has a leg or two to stand on...
Well we had been drinking and he decided he wanted to go get some drugs so I went with him but it was raining and we were just going in circles so I decided I would rather go home. He flipped out on me, I can't remember exactly what we said during the fight but it was something alone the lines of him being a drug addict
If he was just angry you said he was a drug addict, then that seems like a bad excuse to hit someone. By the sounds of it, he was in the wrong.
Your relationship doesn't sound too healthy...
Perhaps he was drove most of the way, and it would take him forever to take you home and come back?
So, he had to walk you home then walk back?
I think there is something you are not telling us, you seem to be tip-toeing around, giving short answers. That's just my opinion.
Well what more do you want to know? I'm not completely helpless, I can walk by myself... besides I live in a city, it is easy to catch a taxi (which is what I did). I'll answer any and all questions that you have but I think I explained the situation pretty well. I think you are just trying to blame me or perhaps find a logical reason for the fight. The only logical reason is that we were intoxicated which I don't think is a good excuse. Regardless I have since forgiven him, I just don't feel as close as I use to with him.
It's fine if it's an act of self defense in which you attacked him, but if no one was physically hurting anyone to begin with, then it's not okay. Guys are predominantly stronger than women, so they should know not to hit females. I'm not going for the idea that girls should hit guys either. Honestly, I think it's immature for anyone to physically hit someone because of a verbal fight, whether they opposite sex/same sex or same sex/same sex, and people who can't control their temper needs some anger management classes.
Depends entirely.
I think that if someone won't let something go, regardless of them making no sense, not trying to make sense, and are just being arrogant, won't shut up, won't let you have your say, then it is acceptable to a degree, male or female.
Basically, this is what I am saying, just without the gender specific:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oo0d1zTAFKA&feature=autoplay&list=FLDcQUoqjuGHLrFfQAbx5PbQ&playnext=1
...The last bit just adds a bit of humour to the video...
No.
This reminds me of the time I was at school picking up books and this couple was arguing. Then the guy slapped her and she walked away. I didn't feel too bad for her because the guy was smaller than her but who the hell slaps someone, especially in public? I doubt it was necessary either. Probably the lamest thing I've ever seen.
While we're on the subject, when I was a senior a teacher got into a fight with this kid and kicked his ass. Honestly the kid deserved it and the teacher had to defend himself, but it looked like he was taking years of students not showing him respect out on the guy.
Any man who dares to strike a women if he is not hit or threatened with a weopon or is hit in the testicles or the face repeatedly is a disgrace