Is it normal for a guy to have a friend whos a girl while having a gf

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I met this really cool guy and we began hanging out a lot. I know he has a girlfriend because hes talked to me about her before. I do have an attraction towards him but i know my boundaries. Were just friends. It's just that sometimes we do things that i feel like he should be doing with his girlfriend and not me. He invites me to do things with him and has even invited me over to his house to hang out and but its just too weird because he lives with his girlfriend. He also opens up to me and recently we discussed his relationship problems with her and now he doesn't know how much longer they'll last. I also doubt that she knows about me. Is his behavior towards me and his girlfriend normal?

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Based on 98 votes (72 yes)
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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    sounds like he's lining up his next girlfriend (you)

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  • SadMostOfTheTime
    13 years ago

    No. It's an excuse to have you in case his relationship goes sour. AND you might be that rebound chic. Not cool!

    To top it off, if he wanted to pursue you...he'd do the same exact thing to YOU!

    Seems like he doesn't know how to be alone and is willing to jump from one relationship to another. The man has no balls!!!

    And guys are SO DOUBLE STANDARD! If she had a male friend, he'd freak out bc he KNOWS what COULD happen...there is no such thing as JUST FRIENDS...I had to drop my guy friend bc of this. Not bc he's a terrible guy, but bc I didn't want to take a chance of what COULD happen. We only talk on the phone, every good while...like every couple years actually. I feel way better I did that too. My pal actually understands why too...and we were friends since high school. No hard feelings :)

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  • dollcandy
    14 years ago

    You were in their house and she didn't know about it? That means he has no respect for her. Don't date him he sounds like a loser.

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  • mandypandy92
    13 years ago

    yes its normal, i have a lot of guy friends and i have a bf. guys are easier to get along with and they all protect me like brothers haaha so i love it. but my bf isnt jealous because we totally trust eachother and id never cheat. so just dont try getting intimate relations woth him and youll be fine

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  • kittykat5
    8 years ago

    Maybe he wants a friend

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    As long as nothing really develops between the two of you it should be normal and his girlfriend doesn't even have to know.

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  • peterrabbyt2
    11 years ago

    Fuck them all, your girlfriend and your pal. Don't ask just do it you dummy.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    It is perfectly acceptable for men (and women) to have female (or male) friends regardless of being in a relationship.

    However, one should introduce the friend to the boyfriend or girlfriend.

    As for your case - you specifically said you were attracted to him. You should not spend time alone with him like that... not because he's doing something wrong, but because YOUR intentions may not be as innocent as you make them out to be.

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  • normalmente
    13 years ago

    it's so normal..of course...

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  • soccer2
    13 years ago

    Normal for u guys to be friends. Not normal that he tels u their probs and he doesn't know about u. Bad situation. His gf would be hurt to know this

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    If he's doing that to her, he'll do it to you.

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  • shelizaaa
    14 years ago

    it is..

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  • BOYracer88
    14 years ago

    yup, he wants you

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  • thehollywood
    14 years ago

    Sometimes its normal sometimes not pick up on his clues because i have had 2 best friends that were guys and nothing ever happened between us and we are still close today, and one best guy friend who ended up to be my bf.

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  • Star1778
    14 years ago

    having friends of the opposite sex is quite commonplace in relationships today. it really just depends on the couple. although, this sounds like a guy that's not happy in his current relationship, and is now interested in you. have you his girlfriend?

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  • GotCrabs
    14 years ago

    Sounds like he wants to drop his girl and pick you up. If they havin relationship problems then he might want to be out of it and hes working on you so he doesnt have any down time. Or he could just be a good guy just lookin for a girl-friend.

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