Is it normal for a guy to find out he's bi/gay & stay married?

I'm married with kids. I love my wife, but have learned that not-so-deep down I'm kind of a big homo at worst, and bi at best. If i divorce, i'll probably still want to be with her. Is it normal to just stay married?

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Comments ( 19 )
  • GrimDoll

    I'm bisexual and married. My husband knew before we got married. I'm totally committed to him but I still admire women as I do men, there's no harm in looking. You definitely need to talk to your wife about it. That way you can express everything you're feeling and once you're open about it, you can truly know what you want to do. Never keep things bottled up you'll start to feel resentment. You deserve to live a happy life and so does your family.

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  • openbottom58

    I love the sex that my wife and I have but every now and then I get this deep urge and desire to have another man make love to me and me to him and enjoy each others bodies with no limits. By, the way I haven't as of yet. I think there are alot of men that feel this same way if they would be honest. If you are only bi then see if somehow your wife would agree to threesomes now and then and let you enjoy him and him you, if he's like that. If you are convienced that you are gay, make sure first, then you should part ways.

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    • Queer69

      I feel the same way as you ...I just need to have sexual tryst with men on occasion.

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    • MalTownsend

      Agreed
      I am the same, the urge is strong

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  • Dazzie

    Sure it's normal. You're bisexual and you still love your wife. Try not to cheat on her, if you do so try to be honest with her and explain to her your sexuality.

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    • nadia_khan

      and then get divorced.

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  • MalTownsend

    I'm bisexual and married
    My wife knew before we married.
    She doesn't want to know about it so it is never discussed

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    • catdogman

      to bad we arent closer we could be bf w benefits

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  • 10inch

    I'm married and we don't have sex anymore because she say I'm too big I just watch straight gay and les porn stores as I masterbate
    I never been with a Guy but I would love to suck one some day

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    • bellhill1950

      i have been bi and married for years nothing quite as good as sex with a man sucking a cock is just about the best sex ever

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  • blackswan33

    I think you should explain to her that you're interested in men. If you're also interested in her still, say that. Ask if you can redefine your marriage to be a sexually open one. If you love her and want to stay with her, this doesn't have to break you up! If you're not in love with her, you should end it.

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  • Well I tink you should make sure your definately 100% gay before you tell her if your bi then yes stay with your wife but if your completly gay and you know it then break it to her gently! and make sure she has no sharp objects! cause Ia might kill you if I was your wife!

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe

    i feel sorry for your wife.

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  • KeddersPrincess

    If you were bi-sexual and you were married to me and you told me that...I'm in the money!

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  • Romeodt

    I also feel it is normal to experiment with the same sex, as long as you do not cheat on your spouse. Be open and honest, and discuss your feelings and the urge you have to be with another woman.
    My wife (of 30 years) and I have a fantastic relationship and still have that, "Teenage, new love" feeling. We both feel that the strong bond we have is due to:
    Alway's being honest with each other.
    Sharing our sexual fantasies, no matter how kinky or outrageous they may be!

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  • YngPoly

    Look up polyamory

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  • ricmarsh

    im bi no worries dont say anything shes already tasted cum on ur mouth like mine did got her horney she likes too watch now and plays with her self

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  • bookmaniac

    Hey dolphin, you realize that's not coherent? You are an idiot

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  • Idodolphins

    Dude don't be a faggit in both ways dont like men and don't be an asshole

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