Is it normal for a guy to change his mind about marriage

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At the beginning of our relationship, my man would always say that he wanted me to be his wife and the mother of his kids. He always talked about marriage and where we would get married and honeymoon. We've been together for quite some time now, so we have settled into that familiar, comfortable love for each other. The other day, I brought up about how I really don't think I will invite my father to our wedding (my boyfriend saw my dad at a bar, and they became cool with each other. Mind you, I haven't talked to my dad since I was 15, now turning 20). Then, after I said that, my boyfriend said "I don't want to get married. To anybody. Marriages never work." That hurt me of course, because my dreams were crushed. is it normal that he changed his mind, could he still love me just as much, even though he doesn't want to get married anymore? Or was that an inference to he doesn't plan on being with me for the long run anymore?

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear that and I'm even more sorry to say it doesn't look good. You really need to talk to him and find out why he's suddenly changed his mind. It could be something that's happened in his life you don't know about, or he is having second thoughts about the whole relationship. Best of luck to you.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Perhaps he hasn't changed his mind. Perhaps he's always felt this way but was lying to you in the early days in order to tell you what he thought you wanted to hear. You really need to talk to him about this.

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    The guy smartened up... I actually got married once, never again.

    Of course, I do feel bad for your dreams of family and etc. but I can tell you that too -never get fucking married. Have kids, live with a guy, enjoy your career and life. Do whatever you want, but don't end up with that golden "handcuff" on your ring finger.

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  • NocturnePonyFan
    11 years ago

    You know, you can stay with someone for life without getting married to them. I believe most people want the wedding, but they couldn't care less about the actual marriage. If a big, fancy-shmancy wedding is so important to you, then it would be good to talk to him. If he truly doesn't want to get married, then he deserves someone who would want the same, and wouldn't think less of him or try to change his mind.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    yes! dont go fuck up by gettin married!

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago

    Agreed with the above comments, it doesn't look good. Talk to him and find out whether it's only you he doesn't wanna marry or other women as well.

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