Is it normal for a guy to call you 50+ times in a row?

Says it all in the title. I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for a while now. Three years to be exact. He's a pretty nice guy. Never yells at me or belittles me; always listens to my opinions; and encourages me to do well. I think I do the same for him. We have a long distance relationship because of school and I haven't seen him in two years.
Our relationship is now a few phone calls a week. It wasn't bad at first but then he'd call me 12 times in a row when I didn't answer my phone. I thought it was weird but I just figured he had something important to say. When I'd finally answer all I got was a "Hey Hun!"
As time progressed, he'd start calling me more and more. Missed calls SECONDS from each other. Tonight, I had 60 missed calls from him.
It's getting under my skin. I love the booger but this is driving me insane and it's scary! When I answer the phone, he doesn't apologize but acts normal. I'm afraid to confront him about for reasons I'm not quite to sure. I'm really patient and I guess I maybe waiting for the day when he gets the hint when I don't answer the first time. Maybe he's lonely? I don't know... is this normal?

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11% Normal
Based on 358 votes (38 yes)
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Comments ( 29 )
  • Mel

    60 missed calls...cute & funny? Missing her? Thats certifiably wacko.

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  • saix

    and you are still with him, what the fuck is wrong with you?!? are you TRYING to get murdered?

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  • BOYracer88

    stalky

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  • loviex102

    He sounds obsessive.

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  • Secretlysafe

    You really need to talk to him. That behavior isn't normal. How old is he? Does he do other things that are "off"? And when you talk to him about this -if his reaction is over the top then you'll know if you need to walk away from the situation. Calling a few times is normal, but dozens is stalking territory. Be careful-seriously.

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  • TWhip

    A lot of guys do that. He misses you and wants to talk. Maybe pick up your damn phone, even if it's to be "hey I'm busy right now"

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  • a guy u used to do tht to me when we werent even going out. just get ur dad to pick up the fone and he will nvr call u again. thts what i did and hes nvr called me since :)

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    • Nitastar

      LOL I did that too! but here she's talking about a RELATIONSHIP you know, so this doesn't work, it's a stalker ¬¬

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      • Nitastar

        I meant he's NOT a stalker

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  • hippychick

    Maybe because you've never said anything about it, he thinks it's being cute or funny. Try talking to him about it. Be reational and don't jump to conclusions. If it stops, great. If not, you might want to consider ending it.

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  • soccer2

    He misses u. Just talk to him. He just wants to talk to u cuz he can't see u and it probably makes him insecure or jealous. Just let him know it
    Bothers u but be nice. It's ok to call like twice hut too Many sends
    The wrong msg

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  • Avant-Garde

    50+-60+ calls a day isn't normal. Very far from it. I would be extremely creeped out.

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  • dmtsymphony

    This kind of behaviour is indicative of a personality disorder, and while deserving of compassion, would be an awful lot to deal with in the confines of a relationship. Look up Borderline Personality disorder or other attachment type disorders for more info.

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  • Theoneandonlyangela

    Dump his stupid ass

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  • RoseIsabella

    When you get fed up and finally dump him he will probably stalk you.

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  • Truth_teller

    50 times is way to much, this guy is without a doubt a lonely psycho. He literally sat there and kept calling your phone for 40 or so minutes..... He has no life, LEAVE WHILE YOU CAN!

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  • Tell him to knock if off. If he gets upset you'll know you need to distance yourself from him. If he stops then hes probablly just stupid and doesnt know any better about calling multiple times. Personally if someone calls me even once directly after they just called I go psycho on them. I think I hate repeated callers more than anything. I will fuck you up if you call my phone.

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  • BluntsRolled

    Cut off.
    /thread

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  • SweetSherry

    I dated an Italian guy I literally mean date going out getting to know each other non sexual relationship he was hot had a sexy Italian accent he called bella I really thought he was normal shortly after I noticed that whenever he calls and I don't answer the phone he goes crazy he'll call me repeatedly until I answer the closer we got the more he'd increase the calls it went from 20 times then 30 then 50 times when I eventually get a chance to answer he acted completely normal like he saw nothing wrong with calling me that many times repeatedly so I confronted him about it and he flat out told me he was jealous and that whenever I don't answer my phone he imagines that I'm having sex and it makes him crazy he said jokingly "I think I would have to kill you if you cheated on me" I was shocked and scared by what he told me I wasn't even officially his girlfriend and he was that possessive I changed my number so he wouldn't contact me he then came to my school places he knows I hang out he stalked me everywhere I went I was so scared I got a restraining order against him and he's never bothered me since not saying that would happen to you just saying your boyfriends behavior started like that

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  • MartaC

    Wow i went through the same thing. I was with a boy- also in a long distance relationship and he would call me like 50 times in a row, if i didnt pick up he would text me and he even went as far as calling my sister to ask where i was. He was very needy, he wanted to be on the phone with me like 24/7. It's extremely annoying i get that he wanted 2 talk but i had things to do and i need some time to myself too. Anyway because of this i broke up with him like early in the year, this lasted almost 2 yrs and i just couldnt stand him anymore. My advice is to talk about it with him and if he doesnt get it, than he's most likely needy and personally needy guys can get pretty annoying, very quickly

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  • thizzle

    Cuz he wants that pussy throw that to him and he'll never call back hahahahahahaha

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  • Well why aren't you picking up the phone? And what does he say when you ask him about it?

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  • gowila

    I suggest turning the phone off after a couple of rings. He may get the hint then

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  • gowila

    Not normal at all

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  • Mel

    ^^^^^ so right

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  • runnergirl

    This is a huge red flag for instability. Run while you can. Please don't justify this behavior. Nothing makes this acceptable.

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  • lmn

    That's just plain crazy

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  • lukex037

    It's never ok. Clear sign that he doesn't trust you, is obsessed with you, is crazy, & or all of the above.

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  • Mel

    NO!!!!!! Get out of it while you can. Guys like that can just SNAP one day. He has issues.

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