Is it normal for a guy to be this much into the gossip?

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My sister and her husband both thrive on gossip. When my husband and I go over to their place, all they want to talk about is ... gossip. If my sister and I are in the kitchen, her husband will usually stay with my husband in the lounger oom "watching tv". What her husband will do though, is turn the volume down all the way, so he can try and hear what we are talking about. He will also not talk to my husband. If my husband tries to make a conversation with him, he will pretend that he is listening, but will not respond and will instead be trying to listen in on our conversation instead. The other day, he went as far as muting his son's ipad so that he could try and listen in on our conversation.

This really bothers me. As I think it is very disrespectful towards my husband to be ignored. I mean what is the point of him going there when he is ignored? However, he doesn't mind it. He thinks it's my brother in laws shame and makes him look like an idiot instead...

By the way, we are not the only people he acts like this around. He does it with everyone.

So, do you think it is normal for a guy (or anyone in fact) to act this way?

How should we deal with it?

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  • Moonbow
    10 years ago

    Men are just as gossipy as women.

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  • amaterasu
    10 years ago

    It is completely normal to be gossipy. The issue with that guy is that he is not only gossipy, he is nosy, snoopy, prying; whatever you want to call him. And of course, he is extremely disrespectful. You should tell your sister something about the situation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thanks for your comment. The thing is, I don't care about him listening in, we don't talk about any secretive stuff or anything, but it is the way he treats my husband that bothers me.

      Also, in the past, my sister used to invte me when her husband wasn't home. At the time I thought it was weird, but it now makes sense. Because she must know what he is like...

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  • funnymoments
    10 years ago

    he is f*king pussy i hate this kind of men your sis should really talk to him what is the point any way he is just like my oncle

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It sounds immature. You could try talking about him, to let him know you know he's listening. He might stop, or get sneakier.

    Say something like... "Don't you just hate it when ____ listens in on our conversations?" He'll probably get really embarrassed...

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    • kittykat9930
      10 years ago

      I agree with this comment. :P Especially the 2nd part lol

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  • Elliemental
    10 years ago

    Omg! Been there...lol in my brother in laws case it almost seems like he wants to be one of the girls! Cannot have a conversation with my sister without hearing his opinion or notice he's staring. Once my brother in law n my husband found common ground (f1 n games) it got a lot easier but he still seems to want to be part of our conversations more :P

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  • ObsessedWithReedus
    10 years ago

    He is being extremely disrespectful. I have to deal with lots of gossipy people, but i dont think ive ever heard of a gossip addiction that extreme.

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  • memvc
    10 years ago

    He's paranoid.

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  • jimrichy
    10 years ago

    Sounds like he might be paranoid you're talking about him.....

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  • DollyBoots
    10 years ago

    It's normal, just fucking annoying!!! Alot of couples gossip bout the people they know but to actually spend your time eavesdropping is rude!):<

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  • PureLikeSnow
    10 years ago

    Regardless of gender, no one should eavesdrop in a conversation. One thing leads to another and soon you'll have a serious issue on your hands. Talk some sense into that guy, he needs to mind his own business and adopt better qualities.

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  • 3rdXsTheCharm
    10 years ago

    I don't believe it's normal but I t obviously does happen in the world, and those kinds of people just don't either A) care or B) realize or even both, realize and don't care. Which is frustrating no matter what, I'm sure.
    I would talk to your sister about it and see whats up. I would also take it with a grain of salt, and not worry about it too much, because obviously no one else seems to care, so why should you carry that burden?
    I do apologize that your bothered by such ignorance though. It must be very annoying for both you and your husband.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    What he's doing is not what I would consider as "gossiping", he is nosy, invading privacy/spying on others. It's disturbing. I think you and your husband should stop hanging around him. If his wife is nothing like him than you can address your concerns to her or invite her (excluding her husband) to spend time with you and your husband.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Just ask him why he does it, he is clearly not hiding it.

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