Is it normal for a guy to be jealous if...

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Is it normal for a guy to be jealous if he likes you, but you are not dating, and JUST friends?
Okay, so there is this guy who likes me (lets call him John) but I have made it clear that we are only friends. He lives 4 hours away, and it just wouldn't work. I am in College, and he is back in my home town that I moved away from 8 years ago. We wouldn't be in the same town for ATLEAST 4 years so it just doesn't make since to even consider dating. I've told him I wouldnt be jealous if he dated other girls, that we are JUST FRIENDS. but in 4 years if we are both single we will see how life plays out. So I had a guy friend coming over, someone I'm not interested in at all. Then John called and said his friends were driving my way and he wanted to see if we could hang out for a little, and would be here in a few short hours. I told John I already had plans with someone else. And before I could explain or make time for him around the other guy, he told me to fuck off and he was done with me and hung up and wouldnt answer my calls back. I've made it clear that me and John are just friends, but he still gets jealous. Idk what to do? I'm considering if I should just stop talking to him, I wonder if this is normal? Is it normal for a guy who likes you but is JUST A FRIEND, to get jealous of you having other friends?

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Feelings don't just go away. He's jealous of you having other friends because one of them could possibly leave the friendzone, something that he really wants to do.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      completely agree, the poor guy simply has feelings for the OP and sees her other friends as competition.

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    Ok don't listen to the above user. Don't fucking avoid him. Yes, he truely likes (possibly loves) and cares about you. It makes sense for him to get jealous. He probably didn't mean what he said. It might be hard to deal with, but just avoiding him and throwing him out of your life will make him feel that much worse. Recently, I told this girl who I was close friends with that I liked her, and now she doesn't even want to be friends. It's already upsetting enough that she doesn't like me, but the fact that she doesn't even want to be my friend tears me apart. I'd give anything to go back and not tell her because I'd still have one of my best friends. Long story short, don't just avoid him because that will destroy him. If you care about him, you'll find a way to make things work out.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Avoiding him will help him move on the less he sees of you the less he will be reminded.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Of course he is jealous he likes you.

    Avoid him.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    Firstly you knew he loves and second you have given him hope ("but in 4 years if we are both single we will see how life plays out"). I don't have any advice to give. Sorry

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