Is it normal for a guy to act this way?

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I have been in love with the same guy for five years and he has felt the same. Whenever asking around about each other people always told us we didn't have a chance so we never admitted our feelings to eachother, finally we started talking after losing contact for almost a year and he drove for nine hours to come see me. While here he asked me out and I said yes. He was amazingly perfect, holding doors open for me, giving me his coat and calling me beautiful, and when he went home I felt a huge hole in my heart. I know that I love him and that he loves me but a few days later is when things started to change. He suprised me with a ticket to where he lives and I went. He was almost in tears when I got off the plane cause he "loves me sooo much" his friends say he has been unbelieveably happy ever since we started dating, I meet his parents and sister and they all love me, so do his friends. We seem to have a perfectly happy relationship but after I leave his cousin comes for a visit. His cousin is an alcoholic and a heroine addict and a complete idiot according to my boyfriend, who wants nothing to do with his cousin. My boyfriend has never been one to drink, smoke or smoke weed and all of a sudden he breaks up with me and tells me I am discusting and how he wants nothing to do with me. He hasn't talked to me since and that was a week ago, all his friends and family say he talks about me and misses me and wants me back.. I am right here, but when I text him he won't even respond!!!! What does he want?? Any thoughts guys? Or girls? I need advice. Does he love me or not??? Is this normal or has anyone had a similiar experience of someone influencing someone you love??

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  • deviantd
    13 years ago

    He could be really scared by how he feels and is turning this fear into a "dislike" of you.

    It could also be that someone has told him some hurtful rumor about you. Or for some reason he suddenly things you will cheat or something being so far away.

    I'd back way way off. maybe send one last, "I don't know why you are doing this, and if you don't want to talk about it I have no choice but to move on with my life." kind of text or message to him.

    wait 24 hours. if you hear nothing, move on. He may have some deep mental scars that you don't know about. if he does, you don't want to wait around and find out about them. trust me

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  • vienna666
    13 years ago

    Thank you deviantd I broke up with him on the nineteenth of January and he still hasn't gotten back to me. I have decided to move on, I am still, however trying to figure out how you can just treat someone that you have loved for so long like this. Thanks for the advice though

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    wow more drama who would have expected that

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  • vienna666
    13 years ago

    Thank you plantinumdutchbmw. He still won't text me back and acts like he hates me

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  • kit-kat-bar
    13 years ago

    He is acting extremely immature. I would wait one more week and see if he responds if you want him back. If not then move on. He lives really far and if someone like that can fall for you that fast then they can fall away from you just as fast. You don't need that. He is clearly a jerk and maybe you can just stay friends. You should not be with someone who abandons you so quickly. He may repeat the same behavior when you guys have a couple kids and then what are you going to say " I should have seen it coming when he abandoned me the first time" ? Also, he moved away too. He has no problem abandoning situations and he also abandoned his family and friends so abruptly to go see you on a whim. I say, leave him.

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  • PlatinumDutchBMW
    13 years ago

    Wow! That is so weird. I think you need to talk to someone close to him about this because something is definitely off. I would start with his sister or Mom and go from there. Good luck!

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