Is it normal for a girl to tell me what level she's been to?

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im a guy in college. my best girl- friend and I were talking about opposite gender; how horrible each others' relations have been. when she was telling me her stories, she told me how far she's been to with some guys and stuff. even though she didnt go all the way with anyone, it was pretty disappointing that I really thought she's nice innocent girl and I liked her more than as a friend... I kind of understand, but is this normal? I was actually thinking she may like me also, but would any girl tell a guy she likes about this kind of stuff?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    If she actually made it to college while still being a virgin then she is way ahead of the game according to national averages. The average age for losing virginity is 16 for females.

    Its kinda silly to think she hasnt been intimate at all with anyone, what do you think she was waiting around just for you her whole life?

    And in all honestly she was probably telling you this stuff because she has mutual affection with you as well. Its very rare a girl will talk about her intimate life with a guy without at least some level of trust in the guy. She most likely was throwing it out there to see your reaction or just broaching the subject. As in :

    What we are talking about right now is something I would like to do with you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      well i appreciate your analysist. you sound like really know what you're talking about. it somewhat makes sense now. And I didn't really mention but I kept my mouth clean. I only liked one girl enough to give up my first kiss. the thing is, i'm kind of having another difficulty with her.

      first of all, she's leaving for a month for winter break in 5 days. second, after we had those talk, she seems like she prefers to stay with another guy more than me, but then yesterday she called me over for 2 hours before her a cappella concert; yet, she started to talk to other guy friends online... Third, she's still kind of having trouble with her ex, and she ask me for advice. forth, she somehow got stuck in dorm elevator for an hour and she texted everyone of our friends, but me. the person she called first was the guy she prefers more than me to be with.

      I am so confused. I'm out of my mind. I kind of told my best friend about my feelings, but I told him I need to make clear to myself if I really like her. and think over winterbreak.

      can you tell me what you think about her actions? Am I just jealous to see her being with that guy? what should I do?

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        well first off it seems as if you are certainly developing feelings for this girl or else you wouldnt constantly be analyzing the different exchanges that are going on between the both of you. Be careful of this, you could end up getting very hurt by this girl if it turns out she has put you in what could be called the "friend zone". Friend zone isnt something someone in your position wants to be in, and its really just a way of the girl saying, "I like you, but I am not attracted to you enough to take it any farther".

        Ask yourself do fit the mold of the type of guy this girl is interested in? If you dont then that would be a red flag right there. If you are that is a good sign. It seems from reading this that you mention she prefers the company of another guy over you, if that guy is single and seems interested in her back then you may not have much of a chance. Another interesting factoid is that she called this other guy when stuck in an elevator, that is telling to me. Women like to feel protected, like to be shielded, and absolutely like to be rescued, if she called this guy first she was giving him the first opportunity to be this for her, which tells me she could have feelings for him.

        Concentrate on finishing your classes/final exams for now. But stay in contact with her in a casual way, i.e. play it cool. Not easy to do I know, but you still have to do it. Mention getting together over winter break as well and play it by ear based on her reaction, if she is interested then go ahead and make plans and perhaps push the level of contact going on. If she isnt interested you may have to accept the "relationship" isnt progressing for her the same way it is for you. I.E. friend zone.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          I actually planned to meet her over break. I'm staying in university and she's going home which is about 2 hours away from the university. I told her about going to chicago and she talked about how we can meet there... but, she wanted other friends to come with. it seems like it's all friends hangout over break thing.
          and what I decided to do now is just be there for her only if she needs me. I'm just gonna wait til her signs to show.
          I'm guessing she only thinks me as a friend that yesterday, when a guy, who she has crush on, came over, she was just staying with him the whole time. I'm kind of giving up now. the best friend relationship even seem like it's over.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            I think she doesnt view it at all in the same way you are viewing it. Especially if she is planning on meeting up with you over break but bringing a bunch of friends and it being a "group" hangout, if she had any interest in it moving past friends she would go herself and be excited to go as well.

            Not a big deal, if you really have strong feelings it would be difficult to be around her, but only you know how you feel. Plenty of fish in the sea and being in college puts you right in the middle of the action. Enjoy a friendship with her and who knows mayby it could become something more, but restrain yourself or else you could end up getting really hurt.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              12 years ago

              yeah, I figured. I'm trying to concentrate more on being happy and working on my finals. I will treat her as I usually do. Maybe I'm just feeling this because no girl really has treated the way she did. Thank you for your comments, it really helps me understand.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Didn't you post a similar story about having feelings for her? I think it's normal that you feel like this. I mean its like a dad finding out that his daughter isn't as innocent as he thought. I suggest you just tell her that you like her.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Its definitely nothing like a dad finding out his daughter isnt as innocent as he thought.

      Thats wrong on so many levels.

      He is referring to having an attraction (sexually) to this girl. More then a friend he mentions.

      No father I ever met wanted to be more then a father or friend to his daughter.

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago

    She told you because you're her friend. If you feel like you want something more than a friendship with her, tell her.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Men have what i like to call a Columbus Complex - though others may have been there, we still wanna feel like we discovered it.
    -That Handsome Devil!

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