Is it normal for a girl to have no pics on her instagram?

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Iwas chatting with this girl on Hot or Not. She sent a couple pics early on but then would always change the subject or refue to send any more. She also refused to give her full name or number or the link to her facebook, even though i gave her the link to mine when she asked for it and would always send her pics when she asked. She stopped talking to me and shut her profile down when i asked her for a proof pic of her holding a sheet of paper with my name on it. I googled her email address and found her instagram and it has no pics. This kinda smells like either catfish or married. Anyway, do you think its normal for an attractive girl to have an instagram profile with no pics on it??

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  • Leonard_Hatred_
    7 years ago

    she's fake

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  • Troubled.child
    7 years ago

    Image search her pictures and see what comes up with them, could come up with a Facebook they're on or an original Instagram account etc, if you don't know how to image search I could do it for you?

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    • bumoffthestreet
      7 years ago

      Her images do not appear in any google search results. I found the FB associated with her gmail address, one pic on it that is clearly the same person. But as I said earlier, I had a PI who specializes in catfish investigations look into it and he said that nobody with her name exists in the US, and he has access to law enforcement and utility bill databases that normal people can't access. So anyone with any kind of credit history in the US would show up in his searches, and no one did. Just had this done last week, so I guess that is my closure. I just don't understand why I still miss her, or why I even let myself get so attached to someone I had not yet met in person. I guess the dating experts and psychologists are right when they say that online relationships have a weird way of moving you emotionally without actually meeting in person.

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      • Troubled.child
        7 years ago

        Oh damn okay well I'm sorry that it's so hard for you to find her r whatever, and yeah you can still get emotionally attached to someone when teyre not physically with you. It sucks in a way.

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  • Stryk3istrukuout
    7 years ago

    It could be catfish or you scared her away. She could be not interested or you just got too close to each other. Maybe she's really pretty and has had problems with being hit on or maybe her parents monitor her social media usage. Could be a lot of things. Not everyone uses Instagram. I've signed up for it I believe and never posted anything.

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    • bumoffthestreet
      7 years ago

      Well her profile age was 26...but a couple off handed comments make me question if she was younger. Wasn't just the instagram; the name attached to her gmail (and the facebook linked to that gmail) is a fake name that doesnt exist in the usa, and is a different name than the one she offered upduring chats. I just figured she was protecting herself. Or how she PM'd me 2 pics early on but would refuse to send any more often making excuses or changing the subject. Or agreeing to meet when i visited her city on vacation yet refusing to swap numbers. Catching her in lies about her life (conflicting details). I figuredmaybe she was just posturing out of insecurity (I have two masters and make 6 figs in the financial sector). The more I talked about my upcoming visit and meeting the more cagey and distant she got...when i asked for a proof pic saying i needed to be sure i wasnt being catfished she said she understood...then went silent for a week. Keep in mind we just spent the past 9 months chatting almost 24/7, and she had literally just finished asking me for more pics which i provided. So after a week of silence i called her out as a catfish and said if i was wrong then message me. She replied only to say that her pics were hers and she was telling the truth about her name and that she was glad im doing good in life and wished me the best. Then deleted her profile.

      Kinda torn between whether i blew it with my antics or if i hit it on the head with the catfish thing. I mean there were the fibs and the bogus names, but after 9 months the connection felt so real. She has tobe a catfish....no real person would do all this, at least not one with a conscience. And even if she was being honest about her appearance, why refuse to send additional pics, or make up elaborate stories about why she cant show me her fb or swap numbers, yet still keep chatting with me? And why block me when I reach out on tumblr? Doesnt make sense...

      I dont know why I asked this question; either way its done and she will never speak to me again...

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      • Stryk3istrukuout
        7 years ago

        Perhaps she thought she knew what she wanted and realized eventually that this wasn't it. I can tell you, personally, that I've put myself on dating websites several times. It begins with me feeling a little lonely and thinking I am in a good position to start dating...and then when I actually get a message and start to talk to someone, everything changes and I've ended up deleting my account several times and starting over months later.

        I think you should stop thinking it is all your fault. I don't think she knows what she wants. Part of that could be something you did or the way you carried yourself, but it doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. Maybe you're accomplishments were intimidating.

        Also, if she is so concerned with showing you more photographs, perhaps she is just really self-conscious. Maybe you both needed this in your life to prepare you for the next relationship(and you meet that next person IN person). It can be hard for things to work long distance.

        To me, it sounds like maybe you were more ready for everything than she was. At this point, either way, if you don't have any way to contact her...there is only so much you can do as you said. Hanging onto it is only going to keep eating away at you.

        I mean, there's always the cinematic way if it was to the extent where you thought this person was the one or you had fallen in love, in that you could find some romantic way to post her picture online and say that you're desperately looking for this woman because you've fallen in love with her and don't want to lose her and perhaps that gains publicity or following and reaches her eventually and it falls into place...but it doesn't sound like that is the case.

        So, with all of that said, if she had a way to contact you, I would just leave that door open and hopefully she will come back to you if or when she is ready. Otherwise, let it go and just take your life a little slow and take some time to recuperate. You sound like you already have your life set and education finished, and that's the hardest part. When things are going easy again, you'll know when you've found someone new. It's hard to provide much more insight without knowing more about the both of you.

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        • bumoffthestreet
          7 years ago

          Yeah...without having the transcript of our chats to present to you, theresno way I can do the situation justice. With the types of fibs and contradictions I caught her in, theres no way she was really who she said....unless shehas major mental problems. I am moving on but its tough because I still feel for her and never really got any answers for closure.

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          • bumoffthestreet
            7 years ago

            All I know is this hurts...

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    yup but if u communicated that long u must have touched her/ or him somehow, don't worry abt this time, be ready, for when its real, it willhappen for u

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    probably fake but wth plenty more out there

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    • bumoffthestreet
      7 years ago

      Yeah there is...i just really liked her. Not really doing the full story justice; we talked nonstop for almost 9 months...made plans to meet but there were some redflags that i just couldnt get past without some answers and she never gave any. Catfish suck. Live n learn i guess

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