Is it normal for a girl to give a guy a second chance

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this is a long story kinda....just please give me some advice here. basically there is a girl who is really beautiful, and I feel that she is my type. She just broke up with a guy she was with for a very long time. I finally got up enough courage to talk to her, and things were going very smooth. We texted a lot at first and she seemed to be interested in me. if she wasn't interested in me at all I don't think she would have given me her number. She even indicated that to me. So the big moment came we were finally going to hang out, I took her to a nice bar where I go to college, and I tried my best to show her a good time. The problem is I was really drunk ,and I said a bunch of stupid things. For one I talked about myself non stop. I was also jealous when guys would look at her. I made several stupid comments as well. the next day she texted me..but from that day forward the text were few and far between. Today she finally told me that I wasn't her type and that she was sorry she lead me on..but that we were just opposite...and I said how? she basically said everything that I did wrong that night! I understood and I told her if she would just give me a second to talk to her about what happened we could go from there. I told her I was drunk, which was true, and that how i behaved wasn't really the guy I am or proud of. I felt like I didn't show her the guy i really was , and I wasn't humble. I told her if she would allow me to take her out one more time that I would show her who I really was. She agreed! with one caveat...that if I didn't change, she didn't want me to be mad if she didn't wanna take this any further. She also said she didn't want me to change who I was just because she didn't like it... And to be myself. Well ladies and gentlemen this is the moment of truth this weekend I will see her again possibly. I wanna be myself, and I don't want to say anything stupid, I just need help and advice. I suppose I wanna know 1. is it normal for a girl to give a guy a second chance...if she truly didn't wanna talk to you or give you a shot she wouldn't,but because her interest was peaked a little or in some way she felt compelled to say yes so she did? so she must not think i'm the worst guy haha 2. Is it normal to completely choke in front a girl and not act yourself because your trying to impress her or your nervous. and 3. she said I was trying to hard is that normal? should I keep it simple? what should I do about that..She doesn't require a lot and she's very independent. I need help because I really like this girl. finally I was in a 5 year relationship previously, and I've been out the game for a while...I think this had something to do with it. i know how to talk to women I just know every situation is different. I think she thinks i'm cute, and a nice guy ect..but she didn't wanna take a chance cuz she didn't feel like we would work. But I think she would like the guy that I am if she truly saw the real me and who I truly am(not while drunk). HELP!

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    You are lucky that you got a second chance. However, being drunk isn't a good excuse regardless of you wanting to impress her. Stay away from alcohol and show her the real you.

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  • Acerbic
    11 years ago

    Most good women will give 'second chances' in this respect. I'm female, and of course I can't speak for all women, but most usually the only circumstances in which a woman won't give you another shot is if she generally doesn't like you/thinks you're incompatible or if you've severely mistreated her. It doesn't seem as if any of these are true in this situation.
    My advice would be to just be yourself! It may sound cliche but it's the best thing you could possibly do; give her a chance to see who you actually are. I know it can sometimes be hard to fight off the nervous awkwardness that inevitably comes with the territory and to not try 'too hard' to impress her, but if you do end up in a relationship the so called 'mask' will eventually come off. It's best to just get to know each other as your authentic selves and see where it takes you. Best of luck!!

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    • Mason556
      11 years ago

      Wtf wrong with you clichey she told him to be himself that dosent give you premmision to rip it off from the articall relly

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  • collegefbalplayer32
    11 years ago

    well she got drunk...and never went out. personally I think she just avoided me. she texted me the next day saying she was drunk. I told her that if she didnt wanna kick it again I understood, as first impressions were hard to get over. She said yeah basically first impressions are lasting and I don't really wanna chill again haha. I didn't care though for some reason...I'm ok with that. if she really wanted to ggive it go again she would have found the time that night. In other news a few days later the girl that broke up with me who I truly love, came back into my life. Were back together and I couldn't be happier. thanks for the help guys...But it turned out I never really needed it haha. later

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    How'd it go

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  • cookiesaregreat
    11 years ago

    Don't take her to a bar. Just.. Just don't.

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  • Danielle:)
    11 years ago

    I am a firm believer that "everyone deserves a second chance" if I was in that girls position I would have said yes to a second chance with no doubt. all your worries and questions are completely normal! just be yourself and have a good time :)

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  • collegefbalplayer32
    11 years ago

    after I made the appology..and told her I wanted to show her who I really was. She seemed more talkative when we texted and interested again. I can't blow it. I have to show her that I'm a good guy, I can be into myself at time like most guys,but that being said...overall I feel like I'm down to earth with women. I want to just listen to her and learn about her more. If I drink I might have like three beers and call it a rap. Wish me luck...any and all other advice I would still appreciate, as the day is nearing..I should see her tommorow night! I'll let you guys know how it goes. thanks!!

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  • Mason554
    11 years ago

    Dude 1 they never give second chances 2 be yourself she said to don't even try to kiss her this is your last chance you don't deserve but best of luck

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