Is it normal for a girl to do this?

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Please read this to the end. I'm fed up with girls treating me this way and I wanna know what's going on.

I took this girl out and it was a great day, we were making fun of each other and we kissed and cuddled, and held hands and that kind of thing. She even kissed me infront of her friends and introduced me to them. Next day, she sends me some long message telling me how she's not sure if she likes me, she's still not sure and that she doesn't know if she's ready for a commitment, and that she's confused, but at the time she enjoyed being with me and she at the time thought she wanted a relationship.

What's going on? Is this normal behaviour? What do I do? She also says she wants to be friends but I don't know what to say or how to act.

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Based on 39 votes (30 yes)
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Comments ( 15 )
  • Freedom_
    8 years ago

    Treating you what way? You had one date and she communicated her feelings in what seems to be an honest way. What makes you think you're a victem? Get over yourself, just because you had fun together doesn't mean she owes you a relationship.

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    • modernism
      8 years ago

      Nice response. :)

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago

    I think you should be upfront with her about wanting to be more than just friends. Otherwise, she'll probably just keep treating you like this and you'll end up in the friend zone or something. Just let her know that you really like her (as more than just friends) and would still like to hang out/get to know each other better.

    Be careful not to rush into things though. After all, you've only had one date, it's not like you guys are married or something. Just try to be understanding and keep an open mind. She could be going through a lot. She might still be hung up on a previous relationship or something, you never know.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Unfortunately yes.

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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    She will run you hot and cold simply to let you know she is the boss and you are the bitch.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    You haven't known her long enough to know her mode of operation. She may have acted like she was having fun, only to decide later that the date wasn't much fun. Who knows? Go out with other girls.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I have the samething happen and dont know why. It seems like a girl is liking ,me and then doesnt with no explaination. I personally feel done with taking girls out, although I may change that if a girl asked me out. I dont really like dating or relationships anyway.

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    I guess she's just unsure and didn't want to lead you on and let you know right away like "Hey idk If i want to be in a relationship but we can still do our thing right now" you know?

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Unfortunately it's normal female behaviour.

    Recently had the same kind of thing.

    Best idea is to ignore it and ignore her and see if she comes back.

    And demonstrate you don't give a shit (e.g. date other women), then she's more likely to come back to you.

    Sad but true.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      Not confined to females in my experience

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      • mystery7
        8 years ago

        Maybe it's (ab)normal human behaviour

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    • Barracuda
      8 years ago

      behaviour...

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    Can't say you did anything wrong. Maybe she really just doesn't want a relationship, and you really can't blame her for wanting to take her time.

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  • sugartits
    8 years ago

    get her name tattooed on your chest

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  • Lariii
    8 years ago

    Give the girl some space and see if she comes to you. It's not good in the sense that it makes you feel awkward, and it's either an excuse that she's not into you, or she's just cautious and doesn't want to rush into anything.

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