Is it normal for a girl to deny her relationship to new-found friends?

5 months ago I broke up with my GF of 7 months which left me devastated. It was a mutual decision. I plan not to have one immediately, as I needed to focus on my career & migration plans. Last month my mom enrolled in a culinary class & met a bubbly girl, Marma, 10 yrs my junior. She became very fond of her. The whole class became excited & keen on her meeting with me in person. When she was asked by a classmate if she got a BF, she answered, no one. But my mom doubted her answer. With her stature, a beautiful face, a maintained body figure & a career, who would have thought no one has found her. So finally, I met her in one sport event. During meal time she was asked again in jest if she got a BF, still the same answer. However, in one incident, a slip of tongue said it all. She started her relationship with Oli 3 months earlier. That was fine, I know girls misbehave too.

I saw Oli during the class party, but was not introduced to me. I kinda got slighted although I never saw them having sweet moments. When we were together hours before the party, she never mentioned he was coming. Some people who knew that she was being paired off to me kinda felt uneasy of the scenario. Little did they know that she really has a BF. That was fine again. I didn’t have the right to react anyway.

Weeks passed, we would hang-out together most often with my mom, trying diff restos in the metro, exchange text messages & calls, going to Sunday mass w/ us (she has a diff religious belief) & has been to my place 3 times. Btw, I stay w/ my single mom. One hang-out time, Marma started confiding to my mom that she is often pissed off with some of Oli’s manners. Without passing judgement, she has valid reasons to complain. She doesn’t know how to deal with such & couldn’t think of a strategy to correct w/o hurting him. She is often compromised in awkward situations with her colleagues around. But that’s another matter altogether. My mom & I could only offer her some impartial insights, but not to dump him.

Based on her behavior, w/o malice at all, I THINK Marma likes me. Whenever we joke around we always come to a point of becoming too touchy even in public, & could be mistaken carrying a relationship disregarding her BF completely. But before things become out-of-control I want to have myself moved on from my recent break-up by not having a love in a rebound. I don’t want to be perceived as selfish & definitely not to demand her to break off with him.

Is it normal for a girl to deny her relationship to new-found friends? What could be her reason for that misbehavior? Well, I believe she is a fairly descent girl. Do you guys think that she is showing signs that she is looking forward to a future relationship w/ me? I want to start everything right, like none of us has issues unresolved. I want to level up this friendship if things work right. I am just hoping it will never be too late. Guys, thank you for reading and I highly appreciate your inputs.

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Comments ( 6 )
  • la_uva_mojada

    Try to talk to her as a friend,
    appeaing to her personality, not her physical attractiveness. if she's beautiful, she'll be so used to every Joe blow trying to get with her, cheesy pick up lines, etc. but if u treat her like a friend and different to all the other fools u may rise above the rest!

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  • sissycakes

    No go tell your friends about your relationship or it is off.

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  • joybird

    She's keeping her options open by denying Oli.

    I think she will break up with him in time, as long as she thinks you will be there for her.

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    • i think so too. i've been telling myself to stop over analyzing her options; that i will not perceive it, in case she breaks up with Oli, a bad move if the ONLY reason was i was there for her. I am still trying to figure things out if she's the right girl for me. lols! way too young, i guess. I am way beyond to have my own family while she is just starting to enjoy her own.

      anyways, thanks.

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  • Dad

    You make up your mind if you want to be with her.
    And ALSO respect and trust that she will make up her mind to be with you (or not).

    Don't be concerned about issues like rebound etc, that's up to THAT person to decide, not you.

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    • thank u, dad for the reply. i just thought it will take some time for me to make up my mind bec there are many things to consider, like her family status (uh-oh! lols), the BF, and my migration plans. of course, whatever her decision will be, you are right, i just have to respect it.

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