Is it normal for a friend to visit my girlfriend?

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We live in a small university town filled with students so everyone kinda knows everyone.

I have a small group of friends, my housemates and my girlfriends housemates. we all met in the same dormitory, been good friends since.

My closest male friend (housemate) has a habit of religiously visiting my girlfriend atleast once a week at random after his work, myself never knowing until my girlfriend tells me.

Is it normal to have uneased or anxious feelings? Maybe i'm too clingy?

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Based on 29 votes (19 yes)
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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    If they were GOOD friends BEFORE you two started dating, then I wouldn't see as much if a problem with it.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Unlikely...Now change your smelly shorts.

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        Bros before hoes

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        • iEatZombies_
          9 years ago

          They always say that when they're trying to fuck your girlfriend.

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    • somethinlikezolan
      9 years ago

      Thank you,

      I believe this is the most relevant answer in my case. We were all university freshers the year before my girlfriend and I started dating, and they had met and been good friends with months beforehand.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm friends with a lot of my friends girlfriends. That part is pretty normal. If they are being sneaky about it that is when it gets weird.

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    • iEatZombies_
      9 years ago

      This.
      If she seems normal, I wouldn't worry. As well as him. If he isn't normal but she is, he's interested and she's not biting. If you get a gut feeling around one, don't ignore it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Yeah...this is very suspicious. I could not imagine visiting my best friends girlfriend alone without his knowledge...that would just be messed up and creepy.

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  • LizardSkin
    9 years ago

    Never trust the "guy friends" bullshit. Even if the girl legitimately thinks it's an innocent friendship, more often than not the guy is just trying to get in them pants.

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    • Mersaphe
      9 years ago

      Not true

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      • LizardSkin
        9 years ago

        How not

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    Yeah, I'd be pretty suspicious too. Guess it depends on how much you trust them.

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    9 years ago

    Eh? I hang out with my best friends girlfriend all the time, for the last 3 years or so, and nothing has happened, you're all weak monkeys.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    I think you should confront both of them about it. If your girlfriend values the relationship with you she'll tell the friend to stop showing up without you there and the friend should understand this and not do it anymore.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I would confront him an tell him to fuck off. I dont get how people can be such shitty people.

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    • Tommythecat.
      9 years ago

      This plus punching and you have my answer.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Hey you cheat on your gfs your the worst hypocrite lol. I wanted to tell him to beat his ass but if the guy winds up in the hospital or dead I dont want to get in trouble.

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        • Tommythecat.
          9 years ago

          I DID. The last one I did not, I do not do it anymore.

          And besides I was putting myself in his shoes, other peoples feels are not as important as my feels.

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          • iEatZombies_
            9 years ago

            Good on you, kittycat. =)

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Im proud of you man everyone should try to be a better person. True but if that was me he would get more then a punch.

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  • somethinlikezolan
    9 years ago

    Thanks for the overwhelming support guys, I believe the issue is, or will be dealt with soon but it was interesting to read so many replies and thoughts within such a short time-span of the question being posted.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Unless they are planning a surprise party for you, I'm with those above.
    But rather than confront him, I would be more inclined to confront her. I'm sure you know her better, so it's more likely you'd know if she was lying. However, you might want to prepare yourself in advance to hear something you don't want to hear. So, if this is an unacceptable option, and you can handle continuing the relationship as it is, perhaps it would be better to not ask.

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    That does sound a bit suspicious.

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