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I have a good friend at work who I help a lot and he relies on me. We have several mutual friends and he doesn't treat any of them like me. Some of them have said that he is rude to me and told me not to be so accommodating to him and give him the silent treatment. Why does he do this?
Coz you let him away with it and he sees you as a doormat. Stand up for yourself!
dont let him walk all over you. it will get worse if you let it. put your foot down. walk all over HIM and see how he likes it. <- dont really but put a stop to it.
It's not normal, he's not really a good friend. He's putting on an act, treating you poorly with seeemingly good intentions, but trust me, those intentions aren't at all good.
Sounds like he's treating you like his enemy. You'd probably feel better avoiding him as much as possible. Why's he so dependent on you? Get him to ask someone else!
I got rude at a friend for little to no reasons once and realized it. I told him, "wow I'm sorry, I don't know where that came from. I really shouldn't have been this rude to you." He said: "Bof, you're always like that when we get back from school and then you calm down late in the evening," like if it was the most normal thing in the world.
I'm bi-polar but I didn't know it then. I get mood swings, and I guess I unloaded it all on him because we where together all the time. With others, I could put a face on but the face can not be on 24/7. I had another guy tell me that he just didn't listen to me when I was mad. Kind of found it funny more than anything else.
I have to admit that I didn't hold the highest respect for either of these guys though. One more than the other but both of them weren't really considered as equals by me(not really proud of that but just the way I remember it).
He does it because you allowd him to do it. We control how people treat us, not them.
Step up and engage him. Don't dread the conflict.
He's not your friend. It almost seems like he's trying to tell you that your an annoyance. Whether thats true or not, he uses you when he needs something.
My advice: Give him exactly what he wants. IGNORE him. He's a jerk... so ignore him for good. You'll gain a much better friend in the end, your own self-worth.
I've seen a few friendships that end up like this. It's almost like a relationship where one person gets possessive of the other. I agree, don't let him walk all over you like that.