Is it normal for a child to act this way?

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I went to my friends house the other day and they live with some other friends of theirs that have two young boys, one is 7 and the other is 4. My friend had her other friend over who had her little girl with her and the whole time this 4 yr old who by the way is more than capable of knowing most right and wrong, was following this little girl around telling her he loves her and forcing this unwilling little girl to give him a kiss on the mouth. The little girl went to the bathroom as well and came out without her pants up because she couldnt get them on right and her mom does not come help her so the 4 yr. Old boy goes and inappropriately in my opinion starts pulling on her pants but is not really helping. Suprisingly I had to step in and hurridely help this child that does not even belong to me because the 4yr old was giving me the heebie jeebies with his akward behavior. I couldnt believe how oblivious everyone that was there seemed to be to his behavior but me, or maybe they didnt think it was unusal enough when the little girl was yelling "stop it" to him, I couldnt believe im the only one without a child and the only one paying attention! Is this 4yr old boys behavior normal, or just a preview of what he will be like when he gets older, a forceful disgusting man with a criminal background?

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Based on 23 votes (10 yes)
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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    If I was a parent (which I am not) I would correct that behavior early.... so I'm with you. You cant expect a child to all of the sudden at a certain age realize that it is wrong when you havent told him because its no biggie..... I think it is. ALso, I would not want my little girl to think that it is okay for a boy to do this........ that is just, asking for it in my opinion.

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  • Verstehen
    12 years ago

    I worked at a daycare, and it was not at all uncommon for kids six and under to try to "help each other" with their clothes. (We often had to run after a child running after another child with their head stuck in an armhole.) Sometimes the kid being helped didn't want help, but kids sometimes like to take charge and try to fix situations. The kissing thing is probably just him trying to act out what he's seen boys and girls doing on TV and in public. In a way, it's cute, because he doesn't realize it's sexual. He's just acting by example. I think it's good that you stopped him because it was clearly bothering the little girl, but this isn't at all abnormal. Kids have little sense of boundaries. It's something that has to be taught.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I think he just sees pants as clothes. He's not following her saying he loves her and then trying to sexually abuse her. All kids do that and the younger ones kiss on the mouth coz that's how they kiss their moms until they get much older.

    It seems innocent enough to me and I have a son. I've been in many groups of children and they're not really sexual beings until they get a bit older. One 8 year old girl did frighten me one time as she was overtly sexual.

    Don't worry about the kids, their parents aren't!

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  • cmc
    12 years ago

    He's a kid. Kids do strange shit sometimes. It doesn't mean he isn't "normal" (whatever normal means) or is going to have psychosexual or social problems when he is older. CTFO

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  • hunnybird
    12 years ago

    Yes and no...

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    I can not answer your question of whether it is normal or not, but I had a (kind of) similar situation to yours one time. I was at a community center and this little black boy just whipped out his stuff and started peeing in the pool. There was plenty of people around, but nobody realized or did anything. I was looking around in exclamation like "didn't anybody just see that little boy pee in the pool!" I finally went and told the life guard and he addressed the situation.

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